My Son hasjust started secondary and has recently been diagnosed with mind Autism. He's very bright, kind handsome and confident, he generally struggles with Social ques (banter/sarcasm etc) so making friends is a challenge for him. He plays football for a local team, which has done him wonders.
We can't wait for him to find "his people" in this new chapter.
He's starting to slowly get to know people in his class/form group and he's spoken about a girl he in his class, and said she's beautiful.
However, he's crushed. 6 weeks into school and he's convinced that she likes his friend (from his primary school) that is also in his form with him. He's so confused because she (and her bestie) talk to his friend but don't bother with him. They've even met up with him outside school and message each other. He just wants to he accepted into the circle. His friend is also on the spectrum so to him he can't understand why they don't bother with him in the same way.
He sits by her in science and if he tries to talk to her she tells him to shh or shut up.
But when he fell in school the other day, she did ask him if he was OK. But recently gave him a gentle push and told him to stay away from her friend (his friend) He's just so confused. He msgd her bestie and asked her why she's being like this and she said she's just very protective over him and just to tell her to shh back. 😅
I don't want him overthinking or putting to much focus into this, but I want to acknowledge his feelings. I've told him girls can be complicated and to just be kind, friendly and keep being yourself!
Him and this friend have been in primary school together, and they're like chalk and cheese but good friends. My son is confident ,footie mad and quirky and his mate is like a long haired skater, very shy.
It's just so hard at times to have all the answers as he's growing and battling hormones and the politics of friendships.