Ds16 is autistic, he got diagnosed 7 years ago when we started noticing changes. He started to become aggressive because he didn’t understand himself. For the most part he has a fantastic personality, he is funny and he can be a gentle soul. It’s been hard, schooling has been hard, he got through, failed his GCSEs, which we were expecting as he just wasn’t academic, especially where exams were involved. He did actually revise but the whole aspect of exams was too much. He got into college, and is actually thriving. He only goes 3 days a week. Every morning he leaves everything till the last minute, my mum is there for 2 of the mornings and he’s usually not too bad with her and currently I’m there on the 3rd day. Waking him up is like waking a sleeping lion, I get grunted at, he wakes up but sits in bed for half hour doing nothing, when he finally gets up he lounges around, I take him breakfast, he gets dressed when it’s 6 minutes for the bus and only leaves when it’s 2 minutes away and the walk to the bus stop is 1 1/2 mins. I’m surprised he’s making it, he has problems with his legs so can’t walk super fast or walk for too long. Luckily it’s only a 5 minute walk from the bus stop to college. If I interfere too much I get my head bitten off. He’s absolutely fine when he gets home, tells me about his day. Today, he was in a good mood, then this evening out of nowhere started complaining about DP (his dad) and about a situation they had whilst out at the weekend. Fine, no problem we talked it out, was a non issue. Getting ready for bed and I’ve just come in from locking up the garden etc, he’s standing there staring into the abyss, I asked him what’s up and he said he’s angry for some reason, but he doesn’t know why. Usually he’s quite blunt and will tell you how it is. He then walked off and slammed his bedroom door. Now I’m full of anxiety b3cause h3s most likely going to wake up in a bad mood, I have no idea why and I’ll be at work. He can be aggressive, a few occasions very very agressive, never towards me but his sister has taken a few random hits over the years even if she does provoke him, she mostly stays out of his way. He mostly slams doors and shouts these days he gets angry. My mum takes no shit from him and he’ll rarely start with her. But his life is hella easier than when he was at high school, I know he hates the morning but he’s literally only going to college 3 days a week and one of them days he finishes at 1. I can’t really do much about that.
any one had similar experiences.