DS finished college in July. He asked to do a bricklaying course. He has to attend a registration day and then a health and safely course. He missed the initial registration as he refused to get out of bed. I told them he was poorly so they asked him to attend today instead. But again, he is refusing to get up and had called me idiot, telling me to shut up etc .
This means he won't be able to do the health and safety course and then won't get on any bricklaying jobs.
Should I ask him to leave? he uses weed and spends a lot of his time out and about, going between different people he knows who might have some.
He has ADHD and keeps doing risky things. Latest one was standing on a narrow ledge of a bridge, with a busy road. Another friend of his showed me the video of the incident. He was stood on the ledge laughing and obviously thought it was hilarious. Another time he was riding on the back of a moving tram. When I challenge him about behaviour he just says "proove it then".
I feel he is vulnerable due to his neurodisability but he's making our lives so difficult. We can't leave him in the house alone because he let's people in who we can't have in the house (they smoke weed etc). On one occasion, his dad popped out for 10 minutes and DS agreed that was ok. He was in bed anyway. When his dad got back home, the living room window was left wide open. He had climbed out of it !
I feel that if I ask him to leave it will just ruin any relationship we have left. But how long can we put up with this behaviour?
He's still in bed now. I've been up multiple times and he hasn't got out of bed.