How to connect with DD ASD/ADHD?

[GreenTreesPurpleSky]

We have so little in common.
She’s got a partner now and whilst I’m so happy for her, wish we had a more connected relationship too. Having a partner has made her a nicer person but I always thought we’d be close, but unfortunately it never worked that way.
How do I try to change things for the future?

Hi I'm wondering can anyone help me. My son is in 2nd year in high school diagnosed with ADHD.. they keep putting him on report for his behaviour which most of it he can't help.. which is related to ADHD. He isn't being bold it's for things like not being organised or being late to class, not following instructions or listening or doing his work on time. Sometimes messing about in class. They won't put him on an IEP because they say he is on target with his work. Some teachers say demeaning things to him which isn't helping his confidence. I've been in for meetings all last school year and they say they put things in place to help him which they don't do. I've asked Paedrician to get a psychologist out to the school to assess him but she can't do that only the school has the power to do that now which they won't do. He was on an IEP in primary school and was very helpful and lots of support from teachers. I'm hoping someone can point me in the right direction to know the correct steps to take to help him in school and get teachers to understand and support him. I really don't want to go down the route of medication unless necessary.. I feel putting him on report is demeaning him for things he can't help and putting him down in front of his class.

@petal854 I think you need to start your own thread to get the advice you need.

@GreenTreesPurpleSky I'm sorry to hear about the relationship with your daughter not being as you'd wish. Sounds like you've done a good job if she's happy and with a partner though. Does she live nearby?

She does live nearby. I have such a good relationship with my own mum, I never anticipated I’d not be close to my own daughter. How wrong I was.
Im pleased she’s happy in her relationship.

@petal854 definitely start your own thread, you should get more responses 

@GreenTreesPurpleSky I'm sorry that you're not as close as you hoped. Do you see her regularly? I'm not close to my DM but was to my DF. Food was a great motivator to go and visit, could you invite them around for tea?