My son is 21, he doesn’t have any empathy, he is selfish and arrogant. He never accepts that he’s in the wrong, never shows me any care even though I have a long term health condition.
He works, he buys and makes his own food, he doesn’t clean up after himself but I just can’t leave it or the house is a mess. He doesn’t do anything to help around the house. I talk to him calmly and explain but he says don’t talk to me and walks away.
He has never ever accepted that he does wrong and I can never make him understand that the things I do ask are simple things.
He laughs when he talks to me and it winds me up, I get angry which I know I shouldn’t but I can’t help it, I shout but it doesn’t help, he then says here we go, he says I’m rude to him, I say he’s rude to me. I said we need to talk calmly and he said he never wants to talk to me about anything serious.
He says that I don’t listen but I feel I do, he has come to me and spoken to me about lots of things and we have talked normally, I really can’t get him to understand the way I feel about his attitude, he’s very clever so will always turn it around so it’s my fault but also says that I have to ‘win’ but I never do.
I have nothing to give him any consequences , I don’t know what to do, nobody would put up with the at he is, why should I?!