Ds16 has asd, he’s in year 11 and he’s always hated school, even though when he actually focuses hes very smart. His downfall currently is maths, his teacher and him are having major disagreements. It came to a head this week with his teacher. It’s a bit of both, but since DS has an echp plan his teacher has failed massively at supporting him. DS is a black or white kind of person, there’s no inbetween, and has been having issues with a ex friend who he’s known since primary school, a downside to DS autism is he’s very blunt which means 99% time he will not lie, basically this girl is a manipulator who then plays the victim which essentially the teachers have fallen for, she’s been like this for years but DS sort of saw another side so let her close, but at arms length. Well thier whole group has had enough of her. DS had been sitting alone for the last few months as his teacher said he was a distraction whilst sitting next to friends, so he split them all up, fair enough his class, that’s his choice however, said ex friend decided last week as no one’s talking to her that she would sit next to DS and has been winding her up since. The teacher didn’t know and when DS tried to leave started questioning him, (in DS echp plan it is stated he can leave lessons at anytime he is overwhelmed, and go to his safe space) DS didn’t take to kindly to this and swore at him, which is totally unacceptable. And I’ve spoken to him about this, he says he’d rather swear when angry because sometimes he feels like punching out.
ds often says he thinks his teacher is bi polar, joking one minute and losing his shit the next to DS is finding it hard to judge the boundaries.
his GCSEs are causing him stress regardless of me telling him, he does what he can. I’ve never believed in exams, especially for SEN kids, I think coursework is a better way. The only subject he enjoys is creative media which he’s elected to do in college, he’s got into college and accepted a place. I was really proud, he spoke to one of the teachers himself, I just asked the questions he forgot. He loves history but says the matter they are studying is not what’s he’s into. He’s angry all the time, it’s a nightmare to get him to school. It’s affecting my health, because I’m anxious he’s going to kick off. He’s got literally about 10 weeks left before his exams and then that’s it. He wants to go to prom. I’m just at a loss… I honestly don’t know how I’m going to get him to even get to school to do his exams. It’s going to be a fight. His sister is due to go to high school this year, I don’t want him putting a dampener on it for her.