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Ds16 struggling massively at school

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Mindovermatter247 · 29/01/2024 22:40

DS is autistic in year 11 and struggling a lot. He has an echp plan and the old senco pushed for him to get it, they got a new senco and she is shockingly bad at her job, we’ve refused to liase with her and now deal straight with either the head or the old senco who is now a deputy head. A few weeks ago the new senco fucked up massively, today a few incidents occurred, DS has never lied, it’s just not in his nature and he’s always been blunt, traits of his autism i guess, neither the head or old senco were there tidy and so we had to deal with another incompetent deputy (that’s a story for another day) from what I’ve gathered DS had an disagreement with his science teacher who told him to wait outside, it states in his echp plan that when he’s overwhelmed or sent out of class he is to be accompanied be a TA, teacher didn’t send for someone so DS wondered the corridors. Then in tutor lesson he had a disagreement with his teacher who is also his maths teacher, who he usually gets on with, ds swore in front of him (which I heavily had words with him about) and when he was leaving knocked a few tables (DS is quite clumsy, so regularly knocks into things) his teacher got pissy and thought he did it on purpose. DS is confused becaus this teacher mostly jokes with them but today was hot and cold. Now they’ve said they don’t want him at school until a plan gets put in place, we just had one done 2 weeks ago, everytime they fuck up they make him spend the day at home so they can scramble to fix it. From what I can tell they are perfectly fine with non Sen kids. I know kids ain’t angels and DS is far from it, but he’s been failed massively, which is now having an impact on his already wavering mental health becaus they can’t get ther shit together. He’s got an offer to a college, but I’m afraid if they keep making him have days off it’s going to impact this. He’s very excited about college, he knows he will only be doing something he loves and maths so he’s much more relaxed about that than currently going to high school. Moving him is not an option, not with just 4 months until his GCSEs and he doesn’t do all that great with new places especially at an already vulnerable tie. We are at a loss and exhausted from fighting them at every turn, I will of course fight to the death for him but it’s taking a toll on us. Anyone or any advice what so ever.

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SearchingForSolitude · 30/01/2024 10:38

Are the days at home formal suspensions? If not, the school is unlawfully, informally excluding DS and you should inform the school DS will be attending unless they formally suspend.

If the provision in DS’s EHCP isn’t being providing remind the school it is a legal document and the provision isn’t optional. Also speak to the LA because it is their responsibility to ensure it is provided.

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