Lack of extra curricular activities

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I've just been reading through an old post from someone on here about their DS who is addicted to screens. My DS is 12 and has ADHD and autism, as well as anxious personality. Unlike the previous poster's son, mine does not want to do any after school activities at all. He fights against us all the time if we suggest he finds a club or sport. I know it's anxiety related. He has many fears involving stepping outside his comfort zone and just point blank refuses. We do sometimes have family trips out but not really in the winter. He has just started to do a little martial arts with his Dad at home. The hope is that we can persuade him to join a club one day.
I struggle with the guilt. Pretty much all he does at the weekends and evenings is TV, Xbox and being on his phone. He reads a little at bedtime but will only read books that he has read before and that are quite young for him. Does anyone have any advice for me. Please be gentle as I already feel like I'm failing!

I don't think you are failing at all. It sounds as though you're providing a safe environment for him and that's to be admired. He may decide to do more later but I wouldn't push him.

If DH is doing MA with him, that's great. If he does decide he'd like to join a class maybe one of you could start the group with him?

@PinkMimosa@PinkMimosa, thanks for your kind words. I suppose it's all we can do and hope that he pushes out into the world eventually. It's the comparisons with other kids that does me in. I know it's not healthy. Everyone I know, their kids do extra curricular activities and have found their passion. It's no one else comparing by the way, just me.