My son is 15 and has ASD. When we go out he cannot use public toilets because he feels very uncomfortable using urinals and add this to the fact that when he was 7 he got locked in in a toilet in a service station - so in cubicles he will only use ones with up and over locks. He thinks the whole idea of peeing in front of other men disgusting - he has tried using cubicles and as mentioned above is scared of getting locked in but says they are vile as there is usually skid marks in the toilet or wee all over the floor. He is ok at school and restaurants where toilets are often private cubicles or unisex but cinema/ theatre/ department stores/ train stations etc it is usually still mens and ladies. Today we visited a different town for their xmas market and he didn't pee all day. We spent over an hour trying to find a toilet to meet his needs including mcdoanlds, wetherspoons, sainsburys and a public block but all were either urinals with other men in or were the wrong locks or smelly and dirty. He remembers using ladies toilets with me and how lovely they were compared to sticky skanky mens ones. Any advice on how to make this better for him. He doesn't have a brilliant relationship with his dad and his dad doesn't get what the problem is anyway so he is no good at helping him out.