Gutted she’s no longer working..

[LunaLooking]

My DD is 22 diagnosed with ADHD and (ASD possibly). She’s had a horrible few years since leaving school and now goes to Uni and more recently bagged a job at a local supermarket as a temporary shelf stacker. She’s only been there for two weeks and the team leader tells her she’s not fast enough! Now she’s telling her there’s a possible chance she’ll be sacked or has to resign!

I’m furious! Why don’t these places support these young people instead of treating them like this!

This time two years ago, she wouldn’t even leave the house!

How do other people cope with this?

Well done for your dd getting to uni.
My dd also 22 is at a special needs college.
Hopefully things are OK,
But they treat all temporary staff like skivvys, it's horrible the way they treat temporary staff and permanent staff. A person I know is a shelf stacker, the pressure they work under is crazy.
I know my dd couldn't work at that pace.
Think some of these places expect staff to start as early as 5am.
Hopefully it won't knock your dd confidance.
This is something we will come across once she leaves college.

@iwanttoscream The money was so good and I was so chuffed she’d finally found this job. It was a shift that no one would want but suited her due to her ADHD. There was a few days she felt down but is relieved she’s out of there, especially been treated so shoddy. I wish the best for your DD, thanks for your reply.

My DD was sacked from her job - the reason was that she didn't understand a rule at the workplace and broke it . They came down on her very hard when apparently other people have done this thing they have got away with it . My feeling is that she didn't fit in and they found a way to let her go. She has ASC/ ADHD & was devastated . I don't get it with these employers , really if you are employing YP there is some responsibility to treat them a bit better , it's hard enough as it is !
I hope your DC can get another job . Mine found another low paid role , and we can support her atm so not too bad for her , whilst she grows and learns . I'm encouraging her to be open about her needs for reasonable adjustments but I don't know if it's always the best thing ...

Do you want ice with that, so sorry to hear what's happened to your dd.
Lots of companies are really negative to people with disabilities.
Hopefully her new job will give her the ability to work with her strengths, not her weaknesses.
My dd still at college, have you looked at access to work.
Think it says if looking for work within 12 weeks, help is available.
So we haven't looked into it yet.
Hoping dd will end up somewhere that helps neurodiverse people.
As memory can be good some days and other days rubbish.
Maybe we will give assisted internship another go??

Not sure what help is available, apart from it helped my husband get dyslexia software etc. Though hes been retired for 2 years now.

Hope all of your DDs are okay, it's unfair when they haven't done anything wrong.

My poor son just got fired from his part time retail job today, apparently he was not talking to customers enough, more like assertive way. No warning whatsoever, he said he would have tried or at least try to do something about it if he knew. To be honest, I think they fired him because he doesnt behave the same way as 'normal' person, he is not always socially aware. I feel so sorry and sad for him, he works really hard at college, he is not the most academic type neither, I don't know what the future holds for him. He is only 16, he had so many bad experiences already from school bullying now sacked from his first job, I worry he will become depressed because his life is not going to be easy😥

Hope your ds is coping with having his confidence knocked.
Hopefully he will find something soon, when he's ready.
After college he could try cxk, which was connections or try assisted internship or apprenticeship to build up confidence

@Notmychildrensfault If my DD ever had a customer facing role I know the same would probably happen to her. It’s so sad isn’t it and just because they’re different. I worry too, it can get me down but I try not to show it.

Thanks @iwanttoscream , I certainly will look into all possibilities for him.

@LunaLooking - that is exactly how I feel.

Today, he had his college assignment back, he has been working so hard on it the last couple of weeks and all he got was a pass. His friends all scored better than him, another knock on his confidence 😥

@Notmychildrensfault sorry to hear that ..that sounds rubbish, especially without any warning ..my DD is so far so good in low paid role, she is on the bar, so interactions with patrons are quick and done quickly . She's not good with anything more challenging . I think maybe apprenticeships are the way to go if I can get her interested . Luckily they have us to encourage them ! Hard though isn't it , sending out hugs to everyone struggling.