I’m at a total loss and feel like a failure.
DS 20 (21 in oct), High functioning ASD. Since he hit the legal age for adulthood his life has spun out of control. He’s technically old enough to take out credit cards and party hard etc but the emotional maturity is not there yet to deal with the repercussions.
4 credit cards maxed out- bailiffs pending
lost 3 jobs due to a mixture of unreliability and attitude
currently working from home with a new company but he’s already had a warning for not turning up to work on Monday (he’d been out all weekend)
smoking weed and hanging around with people who just use him
If I say anything to him I get abuse.
He does pay rent (when he’s working) and I have told him he needs to move out as he steals from me and his sisters. Reality is he couldn’t cope and I fear the situation would get worse. Equally he would just refuse to go anywhere. He’s very confrontational. 6”3 and intimidating.
He’s just been paid and booked a holiday, I asked him if he’d paid some debts- full on abuse back. ‘I can take care of myself’
he really can’t but legally he’s an adult.
I just don’t know what to do to help him 😞