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ASD and uni application

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wondabar · 13/06/2023 00:45

DS is currently doing A levels. He had been at a sa hook that helped hugely with his ASD but decided to go to a mainstream 6th form college as they had subjects he wanted to do. He had very little handover from his school to college (Covid being an excuse for most things) and didn't want to stand out so refused most of the little support that was offered to him, despite his needing it. He has very little self esteem and is so shy which was not the case at his special school where he had good friendships, and has not made any friends at college. Despite receiving a few offers for unis, he says he won't accept any offers until he knows his results. I know there is a deadline in July but when I mention this to him he screams and tells me to stop putting pressure on him. He is taking a year out so wouldn't start Uni till next year but he says he won't do anything until results are out. Sadly the uni which he liked the most and promised the most support for ASD hasn't offered him a place and I think he feels he has worked hard (which he has) and will get better grades and will therefore be able to go there. His world, his rules, and he won't let me tell him otherwise. His world is so black and white and I really do worry how he will cope in the future with so little flexibility and compromise. He has had so little support at college and whilst I understand he wants to act 'normal' amongst the other students, and therefore not get extra help, he really does need support or counselling to help him with the big change that will be Uni. He has come so far and we are so proud of him but just wish he would understand that deadlines are deadlines where unis are concerned and they won't make any exceptions for him. Has anyone else experienced anything similar and if so, how did you manage?

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ThomasWasTortured · 13/06/2023 11:59

If DS isn’t starting university until 2024 I would take all the pressure off. He can reapply in the next UCAS cycle if necessary.

Bunnyannesummers · 20/06/2023 17:59

If he doesn’t make a firm and insurance choice by the deadline in his UCAS portal, all offers will automatically be rejected on his behalf.
He’ll then have to go through clearing or reapply.
Had he applied for student finance?
Applying with grades in hand seems more sensible for him

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