18 yr old DD friendship struggles

[skysky69]

Just wanting to vent really. I do worry for my DD. She has this year had her ADHD diagnosis which is good, but my worry is the constant friendship issues. Girls just don't seem to get her. It has been a constant thread throughout her life, this not quite fitting in.

I would just love for her to have a good friendship group of people, her "army" so to speak. But she just doesn't manage to find that deep connection with people.

In these strange times of social media I find a lot of youngsters have quite superficial friendships that seem to be "snaps" and sending pictures of their eye to each other. But not people who she could reach out to. She does manage to have some nights out with a bigger group, but there does always seem to be drama, one girl talks about her A LOT and seems to be intent in trying to alienate her. Thankfully not many of the group seem to be paying much attention.

She has a boyfriend who is lovely thankfully.

Sometimes I just feel a bit overwhelmed that she has this battle for the rest of her life. I just want to wrap her up in cotton wool and for her to have a perfect drama free life 🙄

Difficult isn't it @skysky69?

My DD is a couple of years younger and never really leaves the house unless it's to do a sport she likes once or twice a week. Even then she's usually with Women who are a few years older so not socialising with Girls of her age.

I think I'm probably ND too and have always had people who don't get me it have been a bit unkind but Women with ASD & ADHD can be very faithful friends and that's really helped me over the years.

It might take her longer, but she'll find her tribe

Thank you @SiouxsieSiouxStiletto - I just hope she manages to find her groove.

I think she potentially has ASD tendencies as well as ADHD as she can be very set in her ways about things and I find lots of other girls her age are so intolerant if you don't fit the mould 🙄

I do think you're right but I think there's always been those intolerant girls around. Luckily there are also some bloody lovely ones too. I just hope that she doesn't let the less tolerant ones put her off trying.

Does she have a hobby or sport or volunteer or a P/T job?

And how open is she to thinking about getting an assessment for ASD? My DN has been assessed privately and they are offering courses to help her deal with things like friendships.