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Does it really get harder as they get older?

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TooTiredAndFedUp · 27/01/2023 17:42

When my ds got diagnosed with autism at a young age I found things a lot as easier as I do now he's a teenager. I know hormones are also partly to blame but I genuinely find it a lot harder to understand his behaviours. He's very well behaved in school and has excellent results! But as soon as he's home he's like a whirlwind. The last few days he's been extremely angry and if I ask him what's up he either says nothing or that he doesn't know, he gets more angry the more I continue to ask so I try and leave him to it till he calms down. But it's draining, he will follow me around, make silly noises, lock himself in the bathroom and things like that. I am aware that that probably also could be due to the masking in school.

Since his diagnosis I've never received any help and I thought I (dad is no longer around and hasn't been for years) I was coping well but lately I feel like I'm failing him.

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duvet · 27/01/2023 20:43

I certainly find them harder as a teenager, like you say hormones plus autism! I'm always saying the wrong thing, or not doing the right thing, she's get annoyed with me so I back off - but then she's annoyed that I'm not giving her attention. Draining is the word!! No words of advice but I'm hoping it gets better as they get older!

TooTiredAndFedUp · 28/01/2023 16:31

@duvet Hopefully it will get better! I am relieved to find out I'm not the only one finding it harder.

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Itisbetter · 04/02/2023 22:52

Yes much harder and lonelier.

Have you tried giving him something high cal to eat and a chillax activity (like a bubble bath) as soon as he gets home? Don’t explain why just do it and the situation may improve. If it works help him see the value.

PritiPatelsMaker · 05/02/2023 09:10

My DD is much harder as a Teen but we've only just started the diagnosis process although I've been asking for years.

She does need a good snack when she gets home but it can be hard to get her to have it as she often doesn't recognise that she's hungry.

She also won't have a bath in the daylight as "baths are for nighttime". 🤦‍♀️

TooTiredAndFedUp · 05/02/2023 18:57

I haven't tried a high cal snack yet but I definitely will! I am having a hard time to get him to wash his hair at the moment so I'll have to see how I'm gonna approach having a bath, he does like Lush bathbombs however so I might get some to bribe him.

It also definitely lonelier, I don't have any family around or many friends with children my ds his age and he behaves a lot better when people around so it's hard for other's to see how challenging his behaviour can be at times.

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