Teen with ADHD always late - any advice?

[Lovinmyblanket]

Hi, my ds is 15 and is late for school every day. I'm not always home in the morning but he is late regardless - today I woke him at 7.35 and 5 minute intervals since then - he was still in bed at 8.20. Then he has a long bathroom routine when he finally gets up.
There aren't consequences at school from being late, and if I say he'll lose Xbox time for example his reaction is extreme he becomes completely uncooperative and won't do homework etc. We tried bribery instead and it worked for two days only.
This is just one of a range of issues we're having. He has medication but no other support, other than in school at exam times.
He tells me he can't stand me quite often and I'm really starting to believe it.
Anyone been through similar? (And survived?) Thank you

I'm waiting to here a magic answer. My DD 13 is the same. Can't get her up then takes an age

Hi @snowtrees , clearly no one has a solution for us!

It's like pulling out teeth

I spend my life watching over her to get her places on time. She asks to be trusted then fails. On repeat

I watched him leap out of bed to get to a sports match on time yesterday, though

Well yes. Mine is never late for fixture

Have you considered whether his medication could be adjusted?

Have you spoken to the SENCO are further support for DS? Has he had an ed psych or OT assessment at all?

Ultimately he needs more supervision, support and prompting whilst he develops the skills to be able to manage himself.

How is his sleep?

Thank you for your post, lots to think about there. We're still trying to get the best dose of his meds. Been a year now of trying a whole load of different types!
He gets learning support for assessments, but that is all. I have told the school of the problems we're having getting him out but they didn't reply.
If I'm at home in the morning, he is still late - but only by 5 or 10 mins. The 3 days I work is when he is excessively late and I can't change my hours unfortunately they are fixed.

(I'm not blaming the school by the way, as obviously it's my job to get my own child into school, but I did hope they could speak to him about it and maybe had some strategies)

Ask for a meeting with the SENCO. The school should be providing more support. Don’t just focus on the lateness as it is a symptom of a wide problem and they can provide support.

I will do next week (half term just now). I'm not sure what to ask them for though. Actually I did ask about help managing his emotions in my last email to them, just didn't get a reply and it was several weeks ago.

Emotional literacy support and self regulation are good ideas to ask for so do ask again. They could also help with executive functioning skills (this in particular could help with the lateness), a mentor, do they have anyone that can deliver counselling or something like drawing and talking.

@Lovinmyblanket Mine is same. I can't go to work until I get her out. Religiously 2-3 min late and gives them a plethora of excuses.
I've told form teacher she has no excuse other than time blindness.
I'm now thinking of asking her to allocate her a job that means she has to be there ten min before the deadline. If she had a reason she'd get there

The lateness wasn't so bad until this year, might have been a few minutes but now 30 minutes and sometimes more.
Have been watching ADHD tiktok about time management, it seems to require a level of motivation that he doesn't have (and I have even tried payment for being on time without success!)

Look on line for ‘ADDitude’ - lots of info and webinars. USA based but helpful strategies. 😊