Not sure if I should be posting here or in the children section, but as my daughter is in y6 and also worrying about the transition to Secondary School I hope it's ok...
Daughter in y6, no diagnosis yet, we have been waiting... and waiting... last christmas had a zoom 'pre-assessment' and were told yes, she is being referred to full assessment, but waiting list is about 18 months from what we were told, so we wait...
She is queen masker at school and a lot of time is ok but comes home and meltdowns or shuts down with her switch to decompress. If there are issues (sports day, concerts) the school lets her wear her ear defenders and she is better with it.
Main issue nowadays is with her dad. He is someone who is nearly always right and doesn't say sorry. latest thing is saying the children are 'hypnotised' by me and influenced and follow me and just do what I say. Daughter is the least influenceable person I know to be honest and is very much her own person... now when her dad says these things she screams and reacts very strongly (to the point where he says she is overreacting - I avoid this language)
Latest issue last night meant he criticised me about something (and I think she is becoming overprotective of me) and I was saying 'fine, ignore it, it's ok' but she started shouting and screaming and wouldn't go near him. to the point she didn't want his usual bedtime hug and this morning was ignoring him and pretending he wasn't there (making like difficult for the sibling)
We have talked and maybe a child psychologist could be beneficial. but how do i go about looking for one? do i contact the GP?
I am so full of doubts, hanging on thinking this is the best thing for the children, as at least I am HERE seven days a week and not 50/50 which would be hell for the routine.
I am lost and I am being assessed for ADHD myself but suspect the whole family (dad included) is neurodivergent.
I guess just wanted to write it somewhere... but not ready to do it in my usual name. thanks for reading