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ADHD - Father in denial of our teen recent diagnoses.

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LPOW · 07/08/2022 01:56

Any suggestions gladly welcome.. 🤗

My DD, 16 has recently been diagnosed with ADHD. From a young age most Professionals, Teachers etc identified there was something not right with DD. After waiting for many, many years for an assessment a recent diagnosis was ADHD.

My DD’s father, (my husband) and I split when DD was 5. He lives in another country, hardly see’s DD but speaks to DD most days on the phone.

My DD advised the father of the result of the assessment and diagnosis to which he responded in a very unkind tone “Between you and I, and not your mother - I don’t believe you have ADHD, I just think you’re lazy” DD was speechless. This has totally floored DD emotionally.

My ex husband will not accept the recent diagnoses of ADHD for our teen and it’s causing DD upset, believing they are not good enough or accepted by him.

Without me sounding unkind about him, I wouldn’t mind but he’s never been around as a father for DD growing up and knows very little about DD, but yet makes this bold statement which is affecting DD.

It makes no difference to me if he’s in denial or not but it’s the affect he is having on DD matters to me. 16 is a tough age on its own , let alone being diagnosed with ADHD and having a father who is in denial and constantly reminds you that you’re lazy.

DD has recently sat GCSEs which was a struggle, left school and got a part time summer job at our local food store. I am so proud of DD and will support DD every step of the way in better understanding who DD is and to learn new ways to help moving forward.

Ive sent DDs father links to better understand ADHD but he says he doesn’t need them 😣.

Any suggestions gladly welcome

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Houseofbloodymen · 12/08/2022 15:39

I'm going through the same thing. My son with 2 diagnoses (private and nhs) loads of reports and who had a multitude of issues, his dad actually said today I'm making up my son has mental issues to get benefits and theme park tickets. Like nothing could be further from the truth! I'm highly suspect his dad is undiagnosed. So he doesnt recognise there's an issue or would have to face up himself.

LPOW · 12/08/2022 19:59

I’m so try to hear you’re going through a similar thing. I guess it’s denial. The problem is, unless they understand the issues surrounding our beautiful children there are going to be problems moving forward and helping them progress. Stay strong 💪 x

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Houseofbloodymen · 12/08/2022 22:15

And you lovely xx

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