DD (16) keeps taking my belongings. I found a lot of my makeup and jewellery in her room when collecting empty hangers around six months ago. I spoke with her about it and explained that I did not want to her to take things (they had been in boxes in my wardrobe so involved lots of rifling through) but to let me know if she needed anything.
It has carried on in various forms, yesterday I went to open some stationery I’d bought myself as a treat for when my home office was complete. I’d purchased three months of a subscription service with various bits in. All three boxes were empty in my cupboard. I asked her and she appeared really annoyed by me asking her if she’d taken it, she avoided the question by saying she was tired, then saying she felt unwell later. After multiple reminders she’s come downstairs with three items of the set including some pencils she’s used/broken the ends in and said she doesn’t know where the rest of the stuff is. When I ask her what she means (has she lost it or used it or given it away) she gets cross and says I am making her angry. It wasn’t really things she would have liked, very much my taste and definitely not stuff she needed. She has lots of stuff and ready access to money to buy things she fancies too
I feel really cross with her repeatedly doing this and unsure how to tackle it. I usually take a non directive approach to discipline and just explain what she needs to do and then give her space to do it but she continues to go through my private things and take things without asking.