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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on SN.

30 year old son

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lolly07766 · 09/05/2022 21:39

Hello all,

Not sure if this is the right place for me to post, as my son is nearly 31.

He has autism, challenging behaviour and a severe communication disorder.
He goes to 2 different placements 4 days a week. In one of the placements he has one to one support, does well on the whole, but occasionally has an outburst of shouty aggressive behaviour.
The last trigger was that another young man started at the same place and repeats things lots and shouts. My son is unable to cope with his behaviour, and kicked off last Thursday.

Today he was saying I'm sorry etc etc as he knows it's tomorrow that he is due to go in.
I've not heard from the placement at all, but when his one to one brought him back last week was saying 'ohhhh I don't know what to do etc etc maybe he could change jobs' and made me feel like he wouldn't be welcome back there.
I tried to offer solutions to which I had no reply.
It's difficult to explain the complete story but I feel like these places (which are set up for people like my son) don't want to deal with 'behaviours that he presents' and he ends up getting excluded. He's been attending this particular placement for around 5 years, and with the same one to one.
Sorry for the ramble, but I just needed to vent a bit.

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fatherfurlong · 12/05/2022 16:27

In the first instance I would contact the placement to find out exactly what happened. If they haven’t contacted you it would seem that they don’t have a problem with what happened and indeed if the other young man continues to go they can take steps so that they are placed/ do activities where they are not going to trigger each other.
If he has attended there for 5 years they must know your son well as would the one to one. Have you seen any differences in your son’s behaviour at home?
If not I would not worry unless the placement contact you to say his place there is untenable.

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