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Son struggling with apprenticeship

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TheChip · 24/09/2021 15:37

He couldn't handle mainstream school, as he couldn't deal with the change in classes and the teachers changed so much they weren't able to understand or manage his needs. No diagnosis as he refused to engage, but suspect he is on the spectrum.

He went to a special needs school and he was fine. You'd not realise there were any issues.
Now he has started an apprenticeship and its not very structured, things aren't happening as they should be and he is quick to point this out.

He is coming home frustrated everyday and telling me about how he has complained again. I've tried explaining to him that he needs to just go with the flow etc. But he is really struggling to do this.
None of the other students like him because of his constant complaints to the tutor.

He was going to really try today to just go with the flow, but they were being sent home 2 hours early. Ds informed the tutor on the quiet that they were meant to be there until x time but because he has also annoyed the tutor with the constant complaints, tutor then went and announced ds complaint to the other students. 4 of which are now threatening to hit him.

My son is just trying to go by the rules, and do things properly. In a frustrating manner, I know. But I really feel for him. He has been really looking forward to this, and I'm really worried that he's not going to be able to manage it until the end.

Is there anything I can do to help make this easier for him, or is there any way he can get some kind of support within the apprenticeship?

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monstrousmayhem · 24/09/2021 18:31

Is DS's EHCP still being maintained or was it ceased?

Deedyn · 25/09/2021 12:03

Hi, sorry to hear how your son is struggling.

Can I ask if you have you spoken to the tutor about your son and how he could be on the spectrum? Without this knowledge it’s making situations even harder for him.

Even if he wasn’t on the spectrum I’d be furious at what the tutor did. As for the 4 students who threatened to hit him…something needs to be done immediately.

As for going with the flow…that’s all well and good but it’s how he thinks so support is essential with this all round.

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