Pretty sure dd has food poisoning so she won’t be going back to school tomorrow.
Dd is quite severely autistic but is classed as ‘classic autism’ and sometimes even ‘high functioning’, she attends a sn school but they don’t seem to realise the struggles I have with her at home.
She will pinch food (I have been posting about it for many years and have tried everything), we have locks everywhere but I often forget to lock them or we try her with the doors open in hope she has changed. We have even installed cameras in the kitchen using Alexa but they take a while to connect and she’s very fast. She has now started taken uncooked food including some sausages, she doesn’t always eat what she takes, sometimes she takes it to her room and hides it or squishes it up and plays with it. She will take food from other peoples houses and will even try and take from shops and people at school, school seems to find it amusing 😬.
I’m also struggling with her overall hygiene, she refuses to wash, clean teeth (I often have to do them for her), she will sleep in her school uniform and refuse to take it off, I have bought her nice new pj’s but she won’t wear them. She has cut her own hair several times and now looks ridiculous.
I feel like I can’t keep her safe, I don’t want to live in house that feels like a prison, with locked everywhere. I can’t have anything nice as she takes it and breaks it, Dd1 has to keep everything locked away and I have to lock anything I don’t want ruined in my bedroom.
I feel awful but I am looking at 16+ placements for her, i think she would benefit from a residential but her current school seem to think she should go to a mainstream collage where she would not be safe. No one listens to what I want or what dd2 needs.
I have no life, I can’t work because I have to care for her, I have no social life and my home doesn’t feel like a home ☹️. I really don’t know what to do anymore or who to talk too about a residential placement. We get some respite but have been messed around by carers during covid.