possibly about to split - SEN Adult DS

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after a lot of years there is a strong possibility that my marriage is about to end - however we have a DS19 who is an adult but will never live independently due to MLD/ASD.

My question though is legally can a contact order be enforced on for an adult DS? I know that 'D'H will want to spend time with DS as he is a good father, but I'm worried that it will be on his terms rather than something that is set in stone as with younger DC

Did not want to read and not reply. My son is similar (M/SLD,ASD) also 19., and we are continuing to find our way through the confusion ( and rareness) that is adult support services. I would guess that contact orders would not apply to a vulnerable adult, but that’s a guess! Do you have contact with 0-25 . They may be able to answer your question and possibly help with the practicalities and if needed mediation over contact ( our 0-25 worker was very good at this) Alternatively independent organisations such as Mencap may be able to help?
The potential change in circumstances may need to be looked at- ( by the 0-25 team) as a lone parent may need support or more support to give the adult son the range of experiences he needs to assist reaching his maximum independence and potential.
I am so sorry. Breaking up has been my fear for many years as our son really needs us both to care for him and keep progress ongoing( and neither get too exhausted)
Are you expecting your son to stay mainly living with you and your husband to take him out and have him stay for weekends?

Going through the same here, though it's money that's worrying me because I've lost every full time job I've tried (and some pt ones) because of being called to deal with dd (my current employers are saints and I only work pt so can make up hours easily). H thinks I can just find a full time well paid job and doesn't seem to accept his adult dd needs help any more because she's at university (lives at home). UC gets me £0 because she's a student