Football coach calls me. Eventually he suggests ds takes a break for a couple of weeks.
Its no surprise to Dh and I. Ds is so incredibly rude to us. Has been for months. Makes minimal effort at school.
I have tried my best with ds, for years, trying to make him understand that the way he comes across is rude etc, arrogant.
But he takes zero responsibility for any of his behaviour and thinks that every one who has ever commented is a knob or a dick.
he has friends. lots. invited to parties. Football is a big part of this. he wants to still be part of the team. He's not that gifted, one of the players who is maybe lower ability, but he goes to training every week. Loves it. And its a big part of his life. He does have friends, and a lot of these groups of boys, of which he is part of many groups, football is central to their lives/discussions/everything. They meet up and kick a ball around, often.
So I know he wants this. But if I try and talk to him about things like this, he just doesn't want to know. Always the same.
Dh and I sat him down last night and calmly told him that he was going to have to take a break. We had tears. And then just hatred towards us about how shit we and the coach are.
I have looked at how ASD children , especially teens take no responsibility for their behaviour, zero-responsibility, before.
but I just don't know how to help him. He doesn't want any help. He hates everyone. I feel its my parental duty to atleast try and help him, but I don't know what to do with him.
Please could all you knowledgeable Sn'ers give me some advice/perspective.