Posted in different sections about dd but just discovered here and I have done questions
Dd14 is really struggling with school, friendship and anxiety, this all started mildly about 2 years ago, just over a year ago she was identified by the school as having working memory, auditory processing and dyslexic traits. Since September she has really struggled but things got much worst in last 6 months, were do dealing with school refusal, or going to school but refusing to go to class or go out at break/lunch she is basically isolating herself
Her anxiety is really bad, panic attacks, her tics are going through bad stages as are her sensory issues and her anxiety is affecting her health and she just can't cope with normal things like periods or even something as simple as a ingrown toenail
I'm taking her to doctors next week as obviously her anxiety needs dealing with asap but also wondering if I should push for asd referral.... the school have bushed this worry under the carpet as have they my request for ed Phyc referral
Main reasons I suspect possible mild aspergers is:
It's on both sides of family in multiple girls
Sensory - dd has amazing smell, knows where I have been or who's been here just by the smell left behind, talks always about everyone's different smells, it's the first thing she notices about new people
She also is funny about fabrics, only wear certain things, ankles can never be covered (jeans even school trousers etc) must be rolled up, all tags must be removed from all clothes
Had different tics all her life anything from stutters, clearing throat to nose twitching to name a few
Foods can't touch on plate and she can only eat in certain order and never mix foods, example must eat all peas first, then meat then potatoes.. if she then finds stray pea under the potatoes that really annoys her and spoils her dinner
She gets extremely emotional and can be quite unreasonable and shut down if upset
Although she has friends she really struggle to maintain friendships an never gets to close in a group she is much better with just having 1 friend
Basically at the moment her whole life has spiralled out of control
When I go to doctors should I just focus on the anxiety or should I also press the aspergers to? Or would whoever she is referred to for the anxiety pick up on the asd if there?