DD15 ADHD can’t cope advice please

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Just posted this on child mental health and was advised to post here

Cry for help! Anyone reading?

Am really struggling to cope with her behaviour, she is either absent or rude. Demanded a sleepover at friends tonight, as she hasn’t come home at times agreed this week and was extremely rude to me last night (think half hour of screaming at me) I said no. Had another half hour of shouting at me, telling me I’m not normal, that she’ll run away... Thing is I’ve let her have sleepovers and her behaviour always goes downhill afterwards, refused to go to school after the last one, assaulted me then ran away.

Please someone tell me where I can get some help as I’m way out of my depth

UPDATE: DD climbed out the window whilst I was putting two youngest to bed and is refusing to give address of where she is, a contact number for an adult, or to come home.

I don’t think the above fully describes her behaviour. She never talks to me unless she wants something. If she doesn’t get her way she screams at me, tries to pull out her hair, head butted her bed earlier.
She is so rude to my partner (step dad) and her half siblings. She is so intolerant. She won’t eat with us because the noise we make is disgusting. She calls her brother (5) a freak to his face, says he’s disgusting, clamps her hand over his mouth to shut him up.
She does absolutely nothing to help the house. No chores.
Refuses to follow any guidelines, we have only a few which is we must know where she is at all times and she has to come home at the agreed time.
Am at my wits ends, holidays with her are hell and I really can’t cope, it is making me depressed.
When she gets 121 time and what she wants she is a decent human being

No words of wisdom here, just an empathetic ear.

You are not alone. If I told people half the things she does / says / gets up to they either wouldn’t believe me, or would call SS!

Dd is 13, behaves just as you describe. We’ve had the police involved, spent nights in A&E due to suicidal thoughts and taking overdoses. She has a diagnosis of ADHD , mixed neurological development disorder and now quite severe MH difficulties. So lots going on.

Do you have CAMHS involved at all or would she not engage?

for you OP.