After effects of dd's violent meltdown.

[thornrose]

My 13 yo dd with AS suffers from terrible PMT and associated meltdowns.

She's just attacked me (again!) in the bloody supermarket car park. The worst thing was her friend saw it all and was very shaken up and scared

She's scratched me and kicked me and pulled my hair.

My sister has taken her off now but I can't stop crying. I just feel so bloody worthless and rubbish afterwards.

I'm going to take her to the GP, has anyone had their teen dd go on the pill to regulate their hormonal mood swings?

My dd has just recently started her periods and although she hasn't had any violent outbursts (yet) she is definitely very different a few days before, very tearful and impatient. Some women do suffer with extreme pms and a doctors visit certainly would help, but also remember....pms or not, violence is not acceptable. Do you actually manage to not retaliate? And is she violent with other people as well or could it be anger/frustration aimed just at you whilst using the PMS card??

I do manage not to retaliate. It's often in a public place so I tend to react differently with an audience

I took her shopping which was a huge mistake on my part as that is her main trigger.

She is only violent with me and it is only during the build up to her period. She looks different, sort of wild eyed? I can't explain it.

I'm making a GP appointment on Monday I've put it off too long.

Yeah i definitely would. She must feel awful as well during that time. Is she apologetic afterwards?

I decided to take her out for breakfast to a beach cafe today. It all went horribly wrong, they had stopped serving cooked breakfast, it rained etc etc, I won't bore you with the details. This time it was just verbal!

She hates herself afterwards but her remorse is quite self centred, more about her than me, that's the AS though.

If I talk to my mum and sis too much they get upset, thanks for listening

You poor thing, can totally relate to this!!! If you private message me will chat more about my own personal experience with a dd the same age and how we have come out the other end :)

saw your thread .... hope you don't mind me gate crashing. Hope things have calmed down for you thornrose. My dd is a bit older - 16 - and is on the autistic spectrum with severe anxiety issues. She will suddenly change from normal, rational behaviour to lashing out, screaming etc. If she doesn't hit me, she will hit herself on the head. In her case, it is not related to her cycle and it is not normal mother/daughter teenage stuff either which is what the so called experts seem to think. Any guidance would be very much appreciated.

Choc I was just looking through my threads tonight and came across your post. I have a CAMHS appointment next week to discuss this (with a psychiatrist and psychologist.) I'll let you know what they say!

I have Asperger's, and had terrible meltdowns and anxiety before my periods. I went on full time birth control pills, so I have no periods. It has really helped stabilize my moods.

gosh OP, jus seen your thread and Id strated one on this site about my teen with similar stuff!

Thornrose Camhs were useless with us.

hope we both get some answers.

from me.