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Worst Meltdown Ever - cried, so sorry for my son

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MiladyDeScorchio · 09/07/2010 22:19

You may remember that we moved house two weeks ago. DS (aged 3 with ASD) has mostly been coping really well.

Last Friday wasn't so good - carpets being fitted upstairs so I had to barricade us both into the downstairs rooms listening to BANG BANG BANG BANG for hours.

Generally, apart from a couple of hours of pre-school three days a week DS and I have had to be in the house all day waiting for all sorts of things. Furniture being delivered, repairs, gas and electrical inspections - it has been endless.

Today was the first "free" day we have had in a fortnight so we went to the park and then I carefully checked the timetable and decided to take him to the gym where we have a swimming-only membership.

Got "the" bag, rang a cab, DS really elated as it was an exciting but a familiar routine albeit one not done for a few weeks. I was so pleased that I could provide this anchor point for him.

When the cab arrived at the gym there were several staff members at reception who watched us get out, DS skipping in with his rubber ring on, good as gold at waiting "while I talk to the man" at the desk and...

"We are closed for the next four hours. We have had signs up about this for the last two weeks"

Poor DS was absolutely inconsolable and I couldn't explain it to him. He is bad enough when we say we are going anywhere then try to make a quick detour somewhere else so you can imagine how disappointed and confused he was. Oh he screamed and roared and cried for a good hour, plus we were stuck there because the staff had let the cab drive away and I could hardly manage my son and bags let alone find my phone

The thing is, this is quite an expensive gym (SIL pays) which prides itself on having all the latest in everything.

You'd think that it wouldn't be too difficult to send a reminder letter or text to their members maybe a week or a few days before today because in their own words, "this is a once-a-year happening"

The manager is supposed to be giving me a call at some point. Any advice on what to say? DS is also covered in minor injuries where he was in such a state that he kept falling to the ground.

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tribunalgoer · 09/07/2010 23:07

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MiladyDeScorchio · 10/07/2010 00:01

Yes he was completely past it. He usually loves going to my Dad's house especially when his little cousin is there. My Dad picked us up as he lives nearby and at every stage he howled more.

Getting into his car, going down the steps to his house, seeing his cousin, all in his mind taking him further and further away from the promised swimming and familiar routine of it.

He was absolutely distraught plus it was so hot today and he has never slept through the night, but a brief BF calmed him. I have stopped offering and he is rarely asking but I was so glad of it today.

Thanks for replying tribunalgoer

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