I don't know what to do

[hanaka88]

I am a single mum of a 4 year old boy who sees his dad regularly.
Basically my son's behaviour has been getting worse and worse, excelling a lot recently, his nursery have arranged CAF meetings etc but no strategies have worked, he is just deteriorating before us, his play is almost all solitary now, he is aggressive, nn responsive, he just seems to be dying inside and it's killing me. His school are going to need funding to support him, he starts in september and the woman at the CAF meeting today said that school have to fund him till christmas before they can even apply for funding. I have recently took him to my GP who said she will refer him to a paediatrician but I don't know how long this will take...or what will happen when he is referred. His behaviour is getting so extreme now, he calls himself 2 names (hiss full name or just his first name) and the other day his dad caugt him punchin and scrating himself telling his first name to 'get out of me your making me cry'

I can cope with difficult behaviour, I dont care what he does to me but he just doesnt seem to enjoy anything at the moment, he is sad and angry and I dont know how to help him

Ask your GP to refer to CAMHS to see a psychologist.
Say you are seeing regression (in skills eg play not just behaviour) and need urgent referral to paed.
Does he show any signs of epilepsy? Fits os absences?
Has he seen any professionals? Who was at the CAF?

No signs of epilepsy at all. At the CAF was me, head of nursery, his key worker, new head teacher, new school teacher and HLTA (starting september) a child support worker and someone from (I think sure start) I'm not too sure who she was but she was the one who was talking about the funding.

What can I do to help him? Noones telling e what to do and it's getting really frustrating. Just got a text the other day (mid everything) from my auntie banning my son from parts of her wedding in case he makes a noise. I told her literally to find herself another bridesmaid and do one. I'm sick of everyone judging him. I'm trying my best but I feel like I'm losing everything, I'm losing my son, my family, my friends and my boyfriend because noone knows what to do or say

You could also ask for an occupational therapy assessment for a sensory profile. If there's a possibility it's a sensory issue, try reading 'The out-of-sync child'.

J was very like this when younger. He was eventually diagnosed with ADHD and autism. Not saying that's what your son has, but CAMHS will take you seriously and (hopefully)will speedily assess as he is violent and hurting himself. J's case was sped up for this reason. I do know how hard it is and hope your GP can refer you ASAP. Good luck.

thanks everyone!