So I'm joining the "no invite" gang :(

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As I drpped DS2 off at school today, there was one of his classmates dishing out invites, DS2 didn't get one . He stood there anticipating one, an she kept turning away from him whn he asked "where is DS2s".

We don't need a stupid party anyway

I think we should put something in the primary education section of mumsnet once a month or so.

No time like the present.

Well it's a stinker either way you look at it. I know DS2 does "play" with this little girl so I'm assuming it was the mam not allowing him to come. I don't blame her really as he probably would just ruin the whol thing with his quirky behaviour.

Water under the bridge now anway, today is another day.

my son doesnt get party invites,hes not even got a diagnosis yet but possible asd/dyspraxia.my daughter had her first party this yr but only invited girls, i gave her enough invites for all class but she invited every girl just not boys. when my son turns 4 i will invite whole class to party and hope they turn up as hes never been to anyones party .i could never leave a child out.with my son one lad in his class has adhd ,he hard work but will b invited same as every child x

Thing is, even my own NT DS1 has asked to have parties that there is no way on earth his brother can go to. He had a karate party this year for his 8th birthday. Can you imagine a 6yo with asd and muscle probs dealing with being unable to do anything that the others were doing and going into meltdown mode because of the noise of 29 7-8yo's? I didn't stop DS1 from having the party he wanted because it is HIS birthday, DS2 gets his own party, of stuff that he can do. DS2 doesn't get invited to that many parties, but he goes to about 3 per year,where most in his class go to 20-ish. DD is the same, but the worst was her 5th birthday when she invited her whole class, and not ONE person turned up.

Plus nowadays, I can't always afford to invite the whole class to every party, I only do that for 6th birthday and 10th birthday. Plus some types of parties have maximum numbers of 20, so you can invite most of the class but not all...it sometimes sucks, but there are other reasons than just other parents being twunts about SN...(Though sometimes it is made obvious!)