My 6 year old ds has recently been diagnosed with dyspraxia and the paed also suspects mild aspergers / hfa. His dyspraxia affects fine motor skills mainly, in that he has difficulty writing and handling cutlery. He has also struggled to sit still because of poor core muscle tone. He has had input from OT and we've done exercises and sitting has significantly improved. He has been able to ride a bike since he was 3 years old and loves swimming, although has only recently begun to swim on top of water. He can be clumsy and gets upset that he falls when running and his body won't do what he wants it to do. AS traits are poor eye contact and immature social skills. He can also get very angry about things and have outbursts that appear out of proportion to the incident.
Over the years we have tried many organised activities and have always given up after a few weeks because of ds' behaviour and his inability to comply with instructions. He demonstrates poor listening and does things in his own way. However he wants to be like all his friends and take part in football, swimming, tennis lessons. We are trying football at moment. It went well for a few weeks, but the last lesson was pretty much a disaster. He was rude to the coach, was disengaged and refused to get out of the goalmouth. I'm beginning to think that these organised activities with NT children are not a good idea for ds, and ultimately will damage his fragile self esteem further. Does anyone else have similar difficulties?