Saw horrible teenage attitude today

[5inthebed]

and it has been playing on my mind all day.

Me and my sister were in town having lunh this afternoon, and opposite the sandwich place we were at was a pizza hut express thing. Big group of teenage boys on a table doing normal teenage boy stuff. A man came to sit at the table next to them with an empty SN puschair. Shortly afterwards a woman comes with her son, who looked maybe 5? The little boy had some form of phyical SN, maybe CP but not sure. The group of teenage boys started laughing at the way the little boy was walking! Big huge teenage boys laughing at a poor little boy who was tryig his hardest to walk. His dad looked so brow beaten by this and sort of hid himself behind the pram and his mam went bright red and flustered. The boys left as soon as the littleboy and his mam sat down with the dad.

I felt so sad for that family, and so pissed off with those teenage boys! That family were probably coming from a hospital appointment (we were near hospital) and treating their DS to some lunch. How dare they have ruined it for them! No wonder parents os children with Sn feel so segregatd and unable to go out.

Shocking, sad and very cruel - I don't know what else to say

Would you consider next time approaching the kids and telling them off? I would be so tempted, but unsure if I would have the guts.

I had a similar experience once - queueing in Boots and a woman was in the queue with a lady in her ?40s who had SN, very noisy and a bit dribbly.

The 2 teenage girls (about 15 or 16 I think) behind me were making fun of her, making silly noises and doing that horrible thing where they pushed their tongue into their bottom lip and made a nnnnhh noise.

I listened for so long and then couldn't bear it any longer - I turned around and said loudly to them "Do you realise just how revolting you are? Making fun of someone who has a disability? How would you feel if that was your sister or aunty? You should be ashamed of yourselves".

They looked suitably embarrassed and didn't say anything, so I hope I just made them stop and think.

I believe that unless we challenge this sort of behaviour it gives people the impression that it is acceptable or even amusing. I am terrible at confrontation (go really red and get a bit tearful) but it's important to me to be a voice for those that can't speak for themselves (including my DD2).

Mojo, had it not been a huge group of boys I would have said something. I was with my pregnant sister and had ds3 with me so coudn't really do anything. If DH had been with me he would have said something.

It makes me very and that teenagrs think it is funny to go on like that.

god there are some shits out there.
take delight in the fact that they will get thier comupance

Ds1 (15) would have gone nuts at them!

I rest my case.
my ds and his mates would have too
they will get thiers in the end..call it karma

we were in town a couple of months ago with my lovely little 4 year old dd in her wheelchair. 2 yoofs were walking towards us and as they passed they said 'can't walk, can't talk, can't run, can't do anything at all'. I went farkin bananas and turned into sweary fishwife. Dh oblivious to it all of course just bumbling on . I still feel like crying and hitting something when I think about it.

Sounds like those kids were real little shits, but as 2shoes says..Karma.

HBOB, thats bloody awful.

How are you anyway, haven't seen you on here for a while. How is the new baby

I'm good 5inthebed thankyou . New baby now a rather lovely 10 month old girly currently snoring in my arms . We get around in our own funny way - dd2 in wheelchair, dd3 under one arm. Or.. dd3 in maclaren, dd2 in walker till she gets tired then dd1 in walker and dd2 under one arm! or dds 2 & 3 in double pushchair but only when really stuck as trouble wedging 4 year old into ordinary double buggy and have dangly leg issues. . All good fun though..

10 months old No way!

Sounds like an outing with you is fun

I went to visit possible new preschool (specialist one) with DD2 last week. Its backs onto a school and there is only a mid high fence between school playground and preschool. 4 little girls (aged about 9) were making squak noises at boy in preschool who was stimming, I would have had a go myself but didnt want to cause problems but did tell staff. I couldnt believe it tbh!

It's awful around here and not just teenagers my ds had a few friends before school but as soon as he started at 'the special unit' they started making his life hell and he doesn't have any visable disabilities, so god help any 'really disabled child' dd2 has also been ostracised because of him as well no wonder she has her own issues concerning him.

This is why I was happy to turn 20. No more being branded a teenager and being stuck in the same age group as these insensitive people.

So that you've had to put up with this. My friend H's mum was talking to me one day, when I'd stayed over and it was me and her up having a chat before H joined us, and she told me she had to go mad at several ADULTS, who made nasty little comments about H, as until she was 9, she was in a major buggy. Made me fume just hearing about it.

I am so shocked at these stories. I can't believe people are so awful

do remember that these are a minority and their are some lovely teens out there, also as I posted on my thread the bad stuff can come from adults as well.

I'd have been having trouble biting my lip in the same situation, 5 in the bed

But agreeing with 2 shoes - they are in the minority. I have had the looks you'd expect with a squealing, manically giggling year old (in a Major) or a screaming, tantrumming 6 year old (on foot) but I've had far more looks of sympathy as I bring DS1 down from his tantrum or surprise being quickly followed by warm smiles when DS2 is having one of his silly moments.

i have to say most teens i met are fine, some very helpful too. Adults can be just as bad if not worse!