non sn, but need mn jury

[2shoes]

ds is 18 and nt, he went to a concert in london yesterday, he stayed over at a mates.
he just rang me to ask if I could pick him up(other side of town)
as he is feeling ill(he reckons he fainted as it was so hot )
so was I mean for saying no because.
A) he had £30 and should have kept back bus fare
B) he could walk down hill for 5 mins and see his dad at work and get bus fare
C) he could ask a mate
oh and
D) not my fault he has heavy bags and hates buses

(oh and I have to be out by 11.50 as meeting girls for lunch miles away>>>>>

I know this isn't sn, but if I post on main board they will slag him off and I will get angry as he is my PFB

not mean at all.. he is 18. if he was about to colapse through ill health I'd be tempted to pick him up.. barring that he although is your PFB , heis in fact an adult!

but then I'm mean too.

I have just been horribly mean to my DS1 (PFB) and told him unless all GCSE course work is completed and handed in.. he gets noooo social life whatsoever until this has been done..

I am the bitch mother from hell .. who doesn't know what fun is!

I'm like you two; hard but fair I think. My boys are smaller than 2shoes but its things like 'if youc ant tidy your room you cant have a visitor': it teacher responsibility for own decisions (different levels for different needs obv- am ahreder on ds2 than others and gave up on ds3 yeras ago LOL)

2shoes I'd get him to walk to your DH's: if can't do that he needs a trip to the GP anyway.

Is it a hangover? Let him learn to take everything that comes with a bit of independence

he doesn't drink(honest he doesnt)
it was just ver hot at the gig and they probally didn't go to sleep until the early hours

I think you are totally right. at 18 he is an adult, but also kid enough to push you 'helpless little me' button. Young adults and children need to take responsibility and in this case you had the reassurance that he had several options (safe) open to him. Its not as though you were abandoning him on the london underground at midnight!
My grown up son still comes to our house to borrow money for a meal at work, and by calling it his ' dinner money' he knows he'll get it.
Your son is just a normal young man in his responses and I hope he wouldnt be pulled to pieces on the AIBU board!

Not mean at all, make him walk!

What gig did he go to?

Sounds like a case of hangover to me!

I once got a phone call from my 16 year old ds asking me to pick him up after school from the bus stop, as it was raining! When i said no, it quickly turned into it was raining and he wasnt feeling well

I felt sure he could manage on a bus too

Have a nice lunch with your friends and as you say dad can deal with it, if he comes over all peculiar again!

he doesn't drink, that is the truth, he refuses point blank to drink.
anyway he is just coming up the road now

beammeupscotty thats why I posted in the safety of sn

Poor lamb, made it home on his own. Seriously, I am pleased to hear he did get home and you didn't go to fetch him. But these situations are difficult with all people, much harder with children.