Other boy attacking ds

[want2sleep]

ok I know this boy has asd too but so does my ds and I dont allow ds to be aggressive. Ds will become aggressive if this carries on.

He drew blood when dug nails in ds arm then ds went up to him next time in playground and started to pinch his arms.

The boy slapped ds in jaw on Monday in yard really hard. Ds started to cry about it at 6 pm as delayed processing. Today ds really anxious saying to his 1:1 keep that boy away from me
The 1:1 not allowed to interviene with this boy as not employed by school and try to stand between boy and ds to stop him attacking ds

Spoke to HT who said well Mrs X that boy has SNs!? This boy has more understanding than ds as they said they would speak to him as he does understand. The boy has no one to one and is a year younger than my ds and I know it's down to not getting the support but my ds is suffering as a consequence as boy making bee line for him at all times in playground.

I have parents evening tonight...any tips on how to handle/approach this as I want to go and have firm words with thisa boy

I meant ds pinched his OWN arms...clearly showing distress by what happened

I would be asking what the school are doing to help the boy who attacks your ds, whether he has ASD or not.

I would want to know what help they plan to give, to stop this from happening.

I would find out the school complaints procedure and then make an official complaint according to the procedure. Your complaint should be about your son being physically attacked by the other boy. The end result should be that the other boy receives some help, especially in the playground which obviously causes him alot of problems.
HTH

Thanks really helpful, already asked what they doing to help the boy...they said waiting for his statement for 1:1....how long is a piece of string though?

But at the moment I am only thinking of my boy and what help they can give him to protect him from being attacked, harmed and hence becoming even more school phobic. Ds wont even let go of 1:1 hand now in playground to go and play as so scared

Want2sleep, if this boy is attacking other children he needs to be supervised at playtime, to prevent him harming other children. Statement or no statement. School have to guarantee your ds's and other childrens well being and safety at school.

Your ds doesnt need help to protect him, the other boy does iyswim.

You should focus on the other boy, he needs the help to prevent him from hurting others. This isnt your ds's problem, its the other boys. Waiting for a statement just isnt good enough.

Hi

If you have spoken to the teacher and aren't satisfied that they will take steps to support/supervise the other little boy more appropriately and thus protect your little boy from being attacked, you are entitled to escalate your complaint to either the head of department (eg Head of KS1) or the Head of the School and if he/she doesn't help, the complaint can then go to the Governors and then, if necessary to the LEA.

Check out their website to see if they have published their behaviour/bullying policy and complaints procedure. If not ask at the office, as they have to give you this information if you request it.

As others have said, the end result of you making a formal complaint should be more help/suppport for the other little boy AND your child no longer being attacked by him.

We have been through this process recently with regard to a child who is nt (he has been assessed) but has challenging behaviour due to family problems. He has bullied ds1 for years and the physical violence was escalating. The end result in our case was the other boy getting a targetted behaviour programme, which ultimately will help him with his problems and in the process stop him thumping our little boy.