ADHD support needed

[flyingmum]

I have dealings with a student with ADHD. He won't take meds. His behaviour at home is now extreme and is having a dreadful effect on the family. I am very concerned and want to help the mum in a professional capacity.

I've contacted the school nurse. I just wondered if anyone here has got any good websites, support sites. Words of wisdom for dealing with full on teenage toddler type tantrums would also be welcome.

He's a lovely kid but although a young teen has the emotional understanding of a 7 yr old and resorts to the behaviour of a 3 yr old with his mum. He also has extensive S&L difficulties.

Many thanks to you all.

Various bookmarks I've picked up on my Internet travels. I "only" have to deal with 6 year old toddler tantrums, but they seem to be heavily mixed in with teenage stroppiness.

The first one is very American and cheezy, but lots of helpful stuff.
www.additudemag.com/

This one is fantastic, if lengthy: www.enotalone.com/article/4121.html

When I say "various", I of course mean two :P

Hi. I have a 14yr old ds with severe ADHD. He is very aggressive and has Huge outbursts. He is emotionally and socially immature for his years. This, combined with the teenage hormones is causing increasing aggressive behaviour and putting the whole family under enormous strain.He is on meds for the ADHD and aggression but these are not really helping at present.
If you want to support this family in a professional capacity, offer to go with her to an appoint.for her ds with his pyschiatrist/pead/whoever is overseeing his care. She can make an urgent appoint. if things are really bad. Often, it can help if another profession. expresses concern as well.
I appreciate the ds doesnt take his meds, but if possible, mum needs to get tough. Without meds, his behaviour will esculate, and he needs to understand this.He is old enough to be told the consequences of the choices he is making and the upset he is causing. There will be times he cannot help the outbursts, but this doesnt make it any easier to live with.
You or she can also make contact with SServices, and ask for a Needs Assessment for her ds and a Carers assessment for her. This can,(with a "fight"), access respite for her ds-befriending/overnight stays depending on what is available. She can also ask her ds psychiatrist to make a refferal on her behalf.
Teens often start to refuse respite, but we are tough with our ds and make him go,(such as it is.) It does him good to get time out and also gives the rest of the family some breathing space.
Often, when families are reaching crisis, they need pratical support. Does this lady have someone who could take her ds for a few hrs/week? Does she belong to a support grp-these are often good for knowledge of local facilities and finding your way through the "system." Does she claim DLA for her ds? Does she receive Carers Allowance? Extra money can help her take her ds and other siblings out.
ADDISS are the national information service for ADHD in Britain. They have an extensive reading list, organise conferences, know what support dc should be getting at school etc.
Sorry this reply is sooo long, but I can appreciate what this family are going through, and hope this info. is useful.