I am hurting, I need a wee hand hold

[iamhurting]

but I cant help it

It is likely ds has mild aspergers, in the process of being diagnosed (see earlier thread). He is in stage one of school. A little one in ds class had his party (theyre stage one at school, have been around each other for all of nursery etc). It looks to be the whole class (common round here as tiny class!) but ds and another wee boy (who is a bit naughty sometimes but lovely!) never got an invite (well I know ds didn't, I cant totally confirm the other one for sure).

I think it may be as his social inadaquacies are showing through he is well behaved at school but doesnt quite get 'friendship' so depsite being with this kiddies all through nursery isnt that bonded to them all or them to him I think the other kids tolerate him but not play with him willingly if you know what I mean? Ds is like an eager puppy that gets ignored alot and wanders off

This has been the first time he has actively NOT been included in what looks to have been another whole class party of which there have been lots so far and ds has attended well and been chuffed to go .

I dont think it was an oversight as his mum is a 'friend' on facebook and it was being discussed etc and thanks afterwards etc.

I cant ask his mum if we lost the invite somehow as that would come across as desperate.

Ds not aware but if he was he would have been gutted not to have got an invite. He is very into parties and very sensitive to rejection.

I saw the other kids inc some that know the party boy much less well heading off with their pressies (we live in a very very small place) so its unreasonable but I feel totally rejected for ds and trying not to as I know its irrational.

But I am scared this is the start of something painful for him and me I suppose.

Can someone give me a wee pat on the back.

I really do feel upset. Silly I know!!

It's a hard one to deal with. It's not like you can go round asking people to invite her or complaining that she's being left out is it?

We tried having really big parties and inviting loads of children but it didn't make any difference to the number of invites which came back.

What a lovely thought about a MN party. we wouldn't leave anyone out.

DD didn't get any invites this year. We invited some girls to her party because she was desperate to have one, and did have a nice time. TBH I think the mums are scared to have her because here it's normal for the parents to go off and leave their kids and they are put off by a child who basically can't talk! Next year she will go to a special unit, so we will just have to invite all of them to her party. It will probably be fun!

Nope, all would be welcome at the MN party - except the biased folk who don't invite ours, of course ;-)

I think you should ask the child's mother if the invitation got lost somehow. She maybe would feel a prang of well deserved guilt. Also, perhaps you should throw eggs at her.

lol I did wonder about asking her? x yeah lets have a jolly good knees up infact a weekend away all together

Ladies, I have started a new thread about perhaps having a meet up and calling it a 'party' to make up for the ones that our kids never seem to hear about.

ooh cool, am away to look!

Good idea Colditz!