Well, finally had the EP visit.
She was very nice (at least to my face) and listened to all my concerns and took notes.
Interestingly, she said that the community paediatrician had been involved and asked her to raise DS at 'prism' - the multi-agency meeting with schools where children get flagged up - as school wasn't acting.
School told me they'd done this themselves.
She is going to see DS in class and will then continue working with him using dynamic assessments. She said she will also do some ASD training with all staff and issue a set of recommendations for school to follow. She said she will be checking that the recommendations are followed.
Anyway, she seemed fine (although I did give her the wrong note for her records - my list of rants about school rather than the neatly headed DS' needs note!)but I don't know what she'll make of it all after speaking to teachers. Mrs Fluffy 'it's all fine and lovely' is unfortunately on today still.
Of course, she also said we wouldn't get a statement as he's not failing academically and we wouldn't need a private EP report because she was dealing with it She conceded he may be underpeforming but children with statements are in the bottom 5th centile for IQ . I pointed out this was policy not legal criteria and that a statement was the only way to guarantee provision. She babbled on about 'panel's criteria.
Anyway, we'll see what comes of her report which she said she will do for next week's diagnostic panel meeting.