ds1 just had off-the-scale meltdown

[Greensleeves]

it was the worst I have ever seen him

he was screaming and screaming

"nothing is going to stop me, I am going to get Daddy this time, I am going to get him"

horrible hurtful stuff at dh

totally beyond reason, he flew at dh and hit him

his little brother was crying because he was scared of being left alone in their bedroom with him

am shaking

that's it really

.

I'm so sorry, what a horrible experience and so traumatic.
Hope things have calmed down now.
Sorry I don't have anything constructive to say, but didn't want your post to go unanswered.

thanks sleepy

he is calm now and has apologised and been reassured etc

and he has accepted the consequences of hitting dh etc

but I am worried

It's awful, isn't it? What had provoked it?

It is worrying when kids do that sort of thing.

How's your younger son now? Is he feeling more reassured now too?

You're being brilliant btw, it sounds like you've handled it all very well.

I honestly don't understand exactly what provoked it

the trigger was him losing his "last question" with dh before bed, after 3 warnings/countdown etc (usually each boy gets to ask one question before the light is put out, they try to think up the most obfuscatory longwinded questions they can)

we have been out at a mini festival all day, he has been running wild and having a great time

no problems with him until bedtime, which was all done as normal - then WHAM

two hours of screaming, growling, total loss of control, and hitting, which he never ever does

little one is OK now, he's asleep

wasn't very nice for him though

Feeling very sorry for you. How old is he?

I worry about what we're going to do when DS1 is a teenager and as big is us.....

sit down, glass of wine time!

is he normally stressed out after being at busy festivals?

or - apols if this sounds awfully patronising - but does the weather affect him/has he been drinking enough - I have felt rubbish today as haven't been careful to drink enough, and DS has been stroppier than normal...

Hey greensleeves.. How the household now.. It's so awful when they do this.

It may have been overload from the whole day.

Big hugs and cuppas to you all

Sometimes the disappointment after a great day is over gets too much, I guess.

Must be worrying if the hitting is new.

I think iwearflairs has a point -my dd is the same. Hope you've managed to relax with a cuppa or a drink. I feel for you, meltdowns are draining and upsetting for all concerned.

I hope today has been a better day.

Ds1 gets like that after we've done something different for the day. He's also really antsy and confrontational in the day or so running up to whatever's happening. Makes us wonder why we bother, sometimes

Greeny (am PPeachy, hello)

Been away so missed this but just wanted to offer huge hugs and support.
Sometimes being at a festicval is worth holding it together for but they can't manage it at home, chuck in teh half term syndrome (too short a break for ASD kids to adjust too if they have such issues) then bang. Really common IME, certainly something ds1 does all the time (DS3 just goes into himself)

More hugs, offers of wine and you know where I am if you want a chat X

Just want to add, you are not alone, my 7 year old auty has been extra difficult today.
Many hugs to you. I think it is also the fact that school starts again tomorrow. He only went to sleep half an hour ago, tomorrow morning should be interesting....