Advice re toileting routine please?

[Marne]

Ok, i'm trying to toilet train dd2, i took her to the toilet yesterday morning, she sat on the loo (didn't do anything), washed her hands and then brushed her teeth (like she does every morning), the trouble is silly me didn't think and now dd2 thinks 'when you go to the loo, you wash your hands and then brush your teeth' . So now i have dd2 asking to go to the toilet every few minutes (still not actually doing any wee's) and now expects to brush her teeth.

I know its my fault for starting it and not thinking. I now need to stop it, but when i try and pull her away after washing her hands she has a complete melt down (rolls on floor kicking and screaming) until she gets her hands on the tooth brush.

I don't mind her brushing her teeth (she only does it for 5 seconds) but i dont want to have to send her to school with a tooth brush .

Help?

A visual sequence chart stuck up in the loo perhaps?

or a social story?

Visual strip stuck up so she can tick off each step.

Read LOTS of petty training books, and talk it through all the time.

Does she go to the look with you/dp/dd1? Talk lots about not brushing teeth when you go.

Also, a visual strip for when she CAN brush her teeth - she might be worried that you are gong to stop her doing it altogether, especially since she seems to enjoy it.

Ok, will sort out a visual chart and put it on the wall. We have been taking her up to watch dd1 and i go to the loo in hope she will understand what she has to do, i think once it clicks she will pick it up quickly ,it might just take a while for it to click though. I really want her dry before she starts school in september.

Would a visual timetable for the day be too advanced? Showing tooth brushing morning and night but not at other times? Or a visual strip with posting box reinforced with social stories?

Have you tried taking her to the toilet at someone elses house yet? It could be that she will only associate teeth cleaning with your home?

My ds toilet trained somewhere between 3-4 (can't believe I can't be exact as it was so important to me at the time). He was non verbal with learning difficulties and I wondered how I would manage to train him - in the end he just "got it". When he showed signs I did what I had done for my NT daughter and left him without nappy or underwear - when we went out he had boxers. Ds was later than dd age wise but had far less accidents and this was both day and night. He is like this in many aspects of life - late to write, draw, read but he gets there in his own time.

Good luck

This is the book that really worked for DD. It avoids all that beating around the bush that some potty books have and actually explains the process - although it's for potty rather than toilet which you might not want...

tibni- just took dd2 to a party, took her to the toilet and she didn't ask to brush her teeth , so maybe its just going to be something she does at home.

Brioche- thank you for the link to the book, i will take a look.

if its at home leave it save money at dentists

its not a bad habit at home to have so meh

otherwise see the advice given

Glad to hear that Marne . ds has different "things" with different places and different people. I have so often anticipated issues and problems that then do not happen.

Teeth brushing at home is a good "thing", I loved it when ds had a "thing" for hoovering