I am desperate to try to understand the rollercoaster behaviour of my SDD and seemingly erratic changes of tack.
She has had a recent diagnosis of AS although its been obviously for many years. Main issues are social issues, ability to get along with peer group, no empathy, consequence and now, more than ever before, unmanageable compulsions.
Current compulsion is stealing. There seems to be no off switch, with constant re-offending over and over again. This used to just cover the house contents, then money, then money and food and now other kids stuff. This behaviour can abate for a while, seemingly under control for a few weeks then its back bigger and worse than ever before. She can tell you very rationally its wrong and has consequences but the 'voice' says to do it. Now, she has said this is not an actual 'voice' more her inner voice over-riding all sense of right from wrong. Once its done its almost like it has not happened, goes right out of her mind to the point of total denial even when faced with compelling evidence. Then the tears and guilt follow later with more lucidity.
Also the heartbreaker now is self-harm. Been here before too but not for 6 months or so, before the diagnosis.
She struggles to make and keep friends and openly admits why they stuggle with her (she is stroppy with them, shouts, and of course now the stealing has escalated). However, as they all walk away from her she seems more intent on pushing away the few who are seemingly supportive. She then says she steals money to 'buy' friends with bought sweets etc. However, this is one action and then the other is to push them away and alienate.
She is 12. Can anyone help me understand these waves or escalation and how to deal with it? What triggers can we identify? How do you deal with this type of behaviour?
She is intelligent, at main stream school and the teachers love her. Good school reports other than the need to focus more.
Thanks so much, any help gratefully received.