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School applying for statement - I'm sad

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PeacefulLiz · 26/05/2010 16:52

Hi Everyone,

Feeling a bit sad today. Just found out that school are going to apply for a statement for my DS1 aged 9 who has a dx of Aspergers.

We have just moved to this school because I was very unhappy with the SEN provision at his old school. And I am very happy with this school. I feel like he's doing a hundred times better.

So I was shocked that they still feel he needs a statement. I thought he was coping fine.

Waiting for the headteacher to ring me to clarify why he needs a statement....

(Of course he might not get one even if they do apply...)

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lingle · 26/05/2010 17:19

WetAugust · 26/05/2010 17:54

Peaceful - try to see it as a positive step that will ensure this new school that has been so good for him will have the resources to carry on the good work.

He's at a critical age - he needs all the help he can get before secondary transfer. If he improves greatly they will cease the Statement.

I just think it's a very proactive and positive move by school - too many schools ignore needs. Yours sounds very good.

Al1son · 26/05/2010 17:55

I've just bought some lovely chocolate cake have a piece.

If you're happy with the school that's the most important thing.

Just think of it as them sorting out how to give him the best provision and let them get on with it. Maybe you're right and he is doing fine at the moment but their greater experience means that they can see possible problems further down the line and want to head them off. It's no reflection on him, it's a reflection of the system which doesn't suit our children who have different strengths and challenges.

You just concentrate on enjoying your wonderful son (and the cake)

TheArsenicCupCake · 26/05/2010 18:01

don't be sad. It really is a good thing.

The new school sound great.. It can be such an issue to try and get exra help.. And it's that extra help that will see your ds supported through school.

Remember just the same with dx... It doesn't make him a different person... He'll just get some support

StarlightMcKenzie · 26/05/2010 18:05

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moosemama · 26/05/2010 18:12

I totally understand why you feel sad, but as others have said, try and see it as a positive sign that you have chosen the right school and they are going to do everything they can to ensure your ds gets all the support he needs, especially in the run up to secondary school.

nightcat · 26/05/2010 18:13

I also think it's a good thing, he will get more help and it will be easier when it comes to secondary transfer. Someone I know was very against it at first, but at the top end of primary fought tooth and nail to get it as they had tracked down ideal school to which they would have never got in w/o.

You will also have a chance of a formal review over and above parent/teacher meetings which (in our case) were never in much depth.
I think it's a good school as they appear to care (rather than let him drift along or suggest another school).

debs40 · 26/05/2010 18:18

It maybe that the school just want to ensure that the resources are there for them to continue offering the level of support they have been giving your son so far. It may be that they did not appreciate how much that would entail before he got there and just want to formalise things. This sounds like the school are being proactive and organised in managing things.

newlife4us · 26/05/2010 18:19

Don't be sad, the school sound really supportive of your ds's needs. There are many schools that aren't. If your DS1 is happy and progressing that's what matters.

Many people have to fight to even get a referral for SA. I would accept this suggestion as a demonstration that the school want to do everything they can to help your DS rather than a suggestion that they are unhappy with your ds's progress.

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PeacefulLiz · 26/05/2010 21:15

Thanks everyone.

You have helped me put it in perspective. I'm very lucky the school are being so good to him.

I'll keep my smile pasted on for a bit longer

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debs40 · 26/05/2010 21:58

PeacefulLiz....you'll have to let us know where you are so we can all come and join your school!!

fightingtheLA · 26/05/2010 22:27

Don't be sad - this should be good for your DS. I have just submitted SA request for my ds who is 10 and am worrying that I should have done it earlier. School are very supportive but I know he will have problems at secondary school. Be glad that the school want to help as lots of parents have to keep fighting for this. Hope all goes well.

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