Who to speak to about bad treatment at mainstream school

[Tiredmumno1]

My ds got injured at school last yr. They swore he fell, but he says he was pushed and told me who. I always believed ds, but couldnt prove it.

However today i find out from a good source, that he was pushed by this other child, and it was logged down, but the head got rid of the log, and played dumb. Just because he has sn they act like he must be lying. I am so angry and really dont know what to do.

I'm not 100% sure, but I would have thought you'd need to contact your local education authority & ask them.

What an awful situation !! I'm so glad DS1 is now in a specialist ASD placement & no longer in mainstream. This sort of thing always worried me.

Good luck !!

Thanks, not to sure about local ed authority, i dont trust them, i tried speaking to them before, they just go running back to the school and tell them and ask them to sort it. Maybe they are on the same side

You could always ring them and ask who you would need to complain to. Remain anonymous & don't mention the school by name, but it may help you find out who to speak to.

Thanx chunky i may try that tomorrow. he is going to a sn school in sept, but its not the point i dont want him to suffer from now til then. there are other things that have happened which i was also informed of today, i am trying so hard not to go stomping in there, how dare she treat any of her pupils like this, she is a nasty piece of work.

The problem is it will be their word against yours. All complaints should be directed to Chair of Governors and then if you're not satisfied contact the LA. We have been told that ds now has to have professional counselling after trauma sustained by how he was treated at his previous school. Unfortunately it will be ds word against theirs and as Head is very devious we are unlikely to get anywhere. Can only suggest you log every incident and put your complaints in writing and always ask them for a written response.

Tired

There are a couple of things you can do.

Firstly, you might want to put in a subject access request, for all data that the school holds on your ds. It might uncover some evidence that your ds tell the truth, or even an account of an event.

Then you should ask your good source if they mind being a witness.

You should also keep a log of these incidents at the very least, with details of your raising it with the school as well as their reaction to it, the way they say they dealt with it and any quotes to you.

How is your ds coping with it?

Thanks fightingthela, we actually wrote to the governer and outlined in great detail of every one of our concerns, again got a ridiculous response with the most important questions ignored, again i think the letter that was written back was actually from the head, she is very devious too, and seems to have everyone wrapped round her finger.

i had to beg his old teacher to tell me if he thought he should go to a sn school, i could tell he didnt want to answer it, i think he thought he might get in trouble with the head for talking about it, even when he gave the answer he whispered, its all very odd

FNN I know he does not like this school, and there is a lot of bad behaviour which he picks up, i know it happens but when he comes home with ripped clothes it gets a bit much, i spoke to my source about that too, she said that had also been logged and who did it so if i wanted to ask the other parent for reimbursing i could. anyhow when i ask the teacher i just get a shrug and she says i will ask, day after she will say no one knows. he has come upset quite alot, i just feel guilty for sending him back to this hellhole until the hols but feel i have no other choice but to let satan, and her devil trolls care for my boy

comes home upset - sorry

Write to the school with a copy to the Board of Governors and a list of incidents. They cannot say that it doesnt happen, as you have your ds's word, the torn clothes as evidence and they are not physical there to witness whether it did or not.

So it amounts to whether your ds's recollection is accurate and whether it can be relied upon. This is totally irrelevant, he has SN's and whether it is happening exactly as he describes are not, he FEELS that it is and it is upsetting him.

You need to ask the school what they plan to do to make your ds feel safe in school, threatening to report them to Ofsted if they are not prepared to take this seriously.

If your ds FEELS this is happening, what help are they going to put in place for him at break time. (i dont doubt that this is happening, but saying he FEELS that it is, makes the schools excuses irrelevant)