Sick of people telling me how to raise DS

[sneezecake]

was at work yesterday, and we were discussing something horrible that was found in the toilet, and I cassually said, well it isn't mine I don't have them as I still breast feed.
very faces followed by a few cat bums!
then being told that I must stop BF as DS is only using me for comefort SFW!!!?
Tried to explain that we have issues with his sleeping, and this it the only way we get him to/stay asleep.
'well you just take it away from him, or he'll be at it til he's 10!' was the response I got.
and 'you'd be suprissed how quickly he will adjust, just leave him to cry'
erm NO definatly not.
ooooooooo so annoyed. just venting!

I have to have a 'meeting' with BIL this week because he is criticising my parenting to anybody who'll listen at the mo and as he and SIL both have disablilities themselves he thinks he is the expert on my child and I'm ruining his life.
Nice. thanks.

It's good to get it out, vent away!

gah, people.

You know the standard lines, right?

"WHO recommends 2 years AS A MINIMUM"

"lactational amenorrhea is fantastic. Worth breastfeeding to natural term just for that"

"Ah yes, my main anxiety is that he'll still be breastfeeding when he leaves home" [combined with look that says "you utter twonk"]

"Oh really, what is the right age to stop breastfeeding?" [hear crazy reply] "Oh. That's an odd idea, where did you get that from?"

Slightly jellis, since the best shot at lactational amenorrhoea was all of 10 months with a child who didn't even start solids until 8 months!

So many people don't get breastfeeding at all. DS1 had had enough and let me know with his teeth by the time he was 18 months, but DS2 kept going until 2.5, which was great, since he was such a picky eater (and still is).

One thing I did find was that once I'd dealt with the from my family for nursing DS1 for "so long" they didn't even flinch about DS2.

Grrr for you.. Some of the parenting advice I have had has been well past the point of unreasonable it is almost laughable. Some of which has been from child professionals grrr... In my case what is worse is the professionals helping by telling you to do what your already doing! Bahhhh.

You know you child best.. You are the best person to know how and what to do.. And there is always mn with some extra ideas and a cuppa if needed.

( passes big wedge of cake)

Thanks for the cake, mmmmm chocolate my fave!
the thing is these were health care proffisionals, if I can't convince them then, well .....
quite frankly, I believe I have helped his brain damage, as breast milk contains stem cells, which I didn't know about.
I'm going to keep on until he's had enough.
oh and I breast fed until I was about 4!