Evening all,
I've been playing a card game with DS2 where you are trying to find pairs and you have to remember where the other card in the pair is. The moment where he or I are trying to remember where the matching card is has been a useful starting point for modelling "I think it's there" "where do you think it is?" "I thought it was there but it wasn't there".
Has anyone else got any practical tips for teaching kids how to tune in to what other people are thinking? It has been pointed out to me that you have to teach them how to express their own experience of thinking Thing A only to discover that Thing B is the case before you can expect them to understand that other people also have thoughts that can be right or wrong. so in some ways what I'm after is ways to help DS2 talk about his thoughts, his mistakes, his surprises, his dreams,etc, then other people's.
Hanen (in "Talkability") say:
"The ability to understand other people doesn't happen all at once. It takes about six years for most children ...to become completely tuned in to other people. You child might take eight or ten years or even longer. It may be something he always has to work extra hard at. But no matter how many years it takes him, your child's understanding of others will pass through a series of five stages...."
Stage1: understanding wanting (different people want different things, not getting things they want make them sad, etc
Stage 2: Understanding Thinking (different people think different things; people act based on what they think is going to happen; when people think something good is going to happen, they feel happy (even if it doesn't ahppen later) and vice versa with bad things.
ds2 now wants me....