PhD guys - thanks

[debs40]

Thanking everyone for helping me with advice about continuing my PhD. I have felt so low and exhausted with everything of late, that getting an increased bill for fees was the last thing I needed.

I have written to the Academic Registrar formally setting out the precise nature of life with a child with ASD. As I wrote the letter, I started feeling proud of myself for coping with everything for the last year and I sat down and filled out that enormous form for DLA which I have been putting off in my panic to try and get the PhD finished.

I'm only human. I didn't ask for my child to have these problems. They will just have to show some support for once!

Thanks for listening.

Good for you!

Writing things down really bring home all the difficulties you have to cope with doesn't it. You read it back and think 'Gosh do I really deal with all that?'.

Really glad to hear you're carrying on. I hope they listen this time.

Thanks. Star you are right. Even though we know we spend our time running around doing a million things, if we're judged by outcomes, it never seems enough.

I get annoyed when I get stressed as the quality of our lives is eroded by my ill-temper! DS in particular is hugely sensitive to me not being happy and bouncy and that is an extra pressure. You always feel like you should be doing 1:1 on something! But that is because you know that everything you do makes a difference.

I've had a horrible cold the last few days but I still pile on the pressure on myself and then feel guilty when I can't be the perfect parent I want to be.

DS' life would improve so much with a non-stressed out mum but the only way of achieving that is.. who knows??????
If Uni just said, you're doing your best and are conscientious and trying hard, don't put yourself under undue pressure, that would be a start!

Anyway, thought I would get the DLA form in before Nick and Dave got benefit snatching

in a rush and at work but just wanted to say well done Debs for carrying on the with phd and doing the dla form as well. Way to go!