I hate the Griffiths scale

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DS had his yearly paed appt today. Last year it was a MDA and he got a dx of ASD. Today I thought it was going to be a celebration of what he's done so far and where he's going to, sort of thing. But no. Griffiths scale in its most undiluted form. No matter his attention span does not extend to the 45-50 minutes required, and he doesn't understand quick, rather abstract questions from a stranger. They asked us nothing about how we think he's doing.
DS has learnt to say 'sorry' when he sees that mummy is cross (communication, recognition of facial expression FFS)? Not interested. Can he draw a ladder for the doctor? NO!
DS now takes turns with the other children at nursery? Not important. Can he pick out the middle cube from a row of cubes? NO!
DS, thanks to the calendar suggested here on MN by moondog and lingle, now understands today, tomorrow, and next week/month? Doesn't matter. Can he use his knife and fork together? NO!
Measured, weighed and found, obviously, wanting. DH philosophically says perhaps they'll give us more OT now. I am fuming, and can see exactly where some of you (esp. lingle) are coming from re. some of those diagnostic tools...

Lmao

LMAO sounds interesting but that's one acronym I don't know.
And yes lingle spurred on by your example, yesterday I was thinking that if ever I get another appt next year, I'm going to write to say exactly that.

LMAO = Laughing my Arse Off ;)

Thank you. One tries to learn something new every day.

we had to lock my boy in the room, to get him to stay and do the Griffiths last week! Kept running out into the corridor. Turns out he isn't that attentive when he's finding it all very hard... doesn't bode very well! We've been doing the same test now every six months for the past three years. It's good in that it gives you a standardised way to measure how your child is doing with gross motor, fine motor, social, visual perception and speech - it's bad in that it can be really demoralising when you think you're doing really well and working insanely to try to help your child and you get your result and your child hasn't got any closer to narrowing the gap between them and their peers.... which is just about where we're at...

we did when saw community paed she marked him as ery delayed im like thats becuase he can not understand way yours talking to fast and to complicated

In our experience the pros don't listen to us at all. They sit there with the notes, reading them, asking us stuff and not really taking notice of the answers. They write stuff down wrong too, so you have to re-iterate it for the next one you meet, who then sits and reads notes not listening to you and writing down stuff wrong and it goes one and on and on....

Once, the paed said 'I see he cannot do role play type activities'

10 seconds earlier DS was listening to my chest with her stethoscope, playing doctor....

I did point that out.

She went on to say he had no empathy. Just as he did that he caught me on the nose with his hand (accidentally) and then proceeded to say 'sorry' and kiss me better.

Vindication.

ds2 can score very well on the r/griffiths as he can follow a command to the letter BUT has no independant thought, can't fill the gaps between commands.
He has 1 to 1 at school as he needs constant direction. If he doesn't get it he just does nothing, simply sits there awaiting instruction.
So RG would score him age appropriate but it has no reflection on his ability to behave like a 7 yr old.
It also doesn't reflect that I ahve had to carry him to the car kicking and screeming just to get him to leave the bloody house.

Hello, Star, haven't seen you in a while!
Vindication is good. A few months on, DS is finally able to answer the crucial question: are you a boy or a girl? (worth ca. 4 points and a half) He will say he is a boy. If you ask him again after a bit, he will say he is a girl. If you ask him again after another bit, he will say he is a boy. And so on.
I may be deluded, but the kid's a genius.