What a day (involving cats bum faced people as usual)

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Just had social worker around to do respite assessment but were informed that they werent going to apply for funding at the moment as "we had said counselling and sleep training were more important"...

Decided to take DD out on bus. This is a major undertaking as she is hyperactive, floppy and basically loud and hard to manage.

Went into shop to buy little toy for DD. DD was in one of these moods and was grabbing everything. She knocked something over despite me hanging onto her for dear life. Manageress had the biggest cats bum face I have ever seen. I apologised, asked if I could help pick it up, was met with cats bum face. I then said "I'm really sorry, she has SN, she isn't just being naughty" (I would have thought this was obvious from DD lying on floor, flapping arms and squealing but clearly not). She said "no problem" but with no let up of cats bum face or eye contact. Am sure she just thought I was making an excuse (reminded me of that thread about people using SN as an excuse for lack of discipline).

Then got DD back to bus stop. Struggled to manage her until bus came. Sitting on bus and she got super-over excited as she loves being on the bus, was squealing a little, then she started singing nursery rhymes. A guy got up and pointedly went and sat upstairs. Strangely that hurt me more than the other incident. Cue me being tearful on bus.

Why are people SO insensitive.

Not getting closer to developing this thick skin yet.

Overflowing - that is hard for neurotypical children too, choosing a treat. I think it is down to it being a special occasion and therefore not wanting to make the wrong choice.
As I said before you will never see these people again so they have no power over you and are wrong. Not really worth bothering about are they.
Wello done to dd for 4 nights of self control. Good girl!!!

I don't think it was in our case, it was because I wanted to spend time with our other children and take them to clubs (dh works away in the week). It's about the whole family, and if I'm honest knowing the sort of things they need to hear when they come to do an assessment.
I suppose starlight, even though it might not be technically true you have to give a sense that you don't know how long you can continue. I do think it is slightly easier if you have other children as the SW can see an obvious affect to a sn child in the family. With one they probably wonder what else you have to do

But I thought they are not coming to make an assessment of your childs disability (which they can;t do anyway as not qualified) but on the need for respite and the pressures the family are under. I suspect what she really means is that there is not enough money in the pot which is not your problem, You need respite, job done,
As someone on here once said, they just haven't learnt to say yes yet. You might have to make a complaint, call in your MP to get anything done (see my other thread if you have the time). It's a shame but true that you have to be an awkward person to get anything done.
Would hate to be a social worker, don't know how they sleep at night, they must go into the job to help people but must on a daily basis think how many they haven't done anything for.