Hello, this is the first time I have posted although I have been lurking for a while.
My 6 year old son is currently being assessed for Asperger's. Having read a lot of information (too much?) I would agree that he is on the spectrum (albeit in many ways normal for my family!). He also has a whole shopping list of problems diagnosed by an NHS OT - low muscle tone, poor tracking, retained infant reflexes, sensory seeking, poor fine motor skills etc. etc. etc.
Given that an ASD is diagnosed by observing symptoms, I don't disagree that DS displays AS symptoms - he certainly has poor social skills compared to other children his age. However, as far as I understand you develop social skills by interpreting feed back that you get from other people. If that information is scrambled how do you interpret language and facial expressions? How do you learn not to knock somebody over in the playground if you have a limited sense of where you are in space? As DS says, when he is in some situations his brain 'overheats'.
On the other hand, I am currently attending an NAS Early Bird course, where I have been told that autistic people are distracted by sound and light because they aren't focusing on faces, i.e. they don't so much suffer from sensory processing problems as lack of interest in others. To be fair I am paraphrasing what I was told, and I don't know if this was the opinion of the speaker or somebody else.
However, the thrust of the course seems to be that autistic people have no imagination and are panicked by things they can't understand. I would say that my son is panicked partly because he wants to understand everything, and partly because he is trying to pre-empt a situation that he can't cope with.
DS's difficulties are clearly interfering with his everyday life, so he is far enough along the spectrum for me to agree that he is 'on it' (although aren't we all on some spectrum?). However, I feel that he has been put in the autism 'box' where every autistic person fails the Sally Anne test and can't cope with a banana being used as a telephone; while his problems like low muscle tone seem to have been completely forgotten. A Social Story about how to behave in the playground won't help him to play football if he can't kick a ball. Aaaahrgh!!!!!!