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Had ds1's review this afternoon; school and us agreed he needs 1-1 at all unstructured times, and we had to ask at this one for AS Base palcement at comp level. ASD Specialist, CAMHs Lady, LEa all scheduled to attend.

ASD lady- wanted to come but a funding agreement must have been submitted last eyar so her boss said nope

CAMHs lady too busy

LEA e-mailed us as we walked out teh dforr tosay not comin, child needs their attention. WHY NOT MY CHILD? What's wrong with him? (second time in a row they did this, costing £60 for childcare for basically wasted meetings).

I ahev no idea what happened at the meeting; they have requestd the AS Base but they faffed around changing the wording of the statement to refelct his severe behavioural stuff then brought ds1 in and talked about some pil;e of crap compliments book the kids in his class could fill in about him (???) but now DH and I are realissing that they never mentioned the 1-1 at all so we have no idea if it has been asked for.

Head attended but went into a sulk becuase ds1 mentioned he dosn't like worship. Didn't say a single word. Every time DH tried to contribute SENCO put her hand up in a 'talk to the hand' sort of way. DH left early to get ds4 but is seriously unimpre4ssed.

But hey, he will get a compliment book yes?

And they acknowledge ds2 is at risk and they can't separate them next eyar but had no ideas at all.

And next eyar they are moving to a comp system where year 6's move around all day with specialist teaching. We're stuffed.

OK so IEP tragets:

If we gice him anotebook he can write things in there so he has a diary of things happening

There will be some things incluidng maybe chess in a jar and sometimes ds1 can play them at breaks on the yard

There will be a book and if someone wants to write something nice then ds1 can read it

JUST STOP HIM TRYING TO KIPP PEOPLE FFS

DH won't let me HE him as DH is scared what might happen to DS4 and me.

FFS, that is ridiculous. Do you have parent partnership there? I know it varies though. Can you use the fact that they aren't keeping either of your children safe at school? The whole thing is just so inadequate though. Sorry, not helpful, just very that parents keep coming up against this shit.

We are using the safety thing- ds1 persuaded a friend to 'stab' ds2 last week with a pencil, left a nice mark but school weren't even aware and DS2 was told off when he tried to ask for help as teahcer was talking to someone else

Now, LEA could write and say OK of course we will fund all this

but they won't will they? They will say stupid parents, putitng up with this, just forget them and move on.

oh crap was about to ask how you got on so basically no further forward?just a lot of their boxsticked but nothing usefull