Paying for damage at school

[imahappycamper]

As responsible parents if any of our DC damaged school equipment we have always offered to pay for it. (We have also found that if you offer schools often decline so it hasn't been an expensive policy!)
Last week DS (Aspie) was involved in an incident in which he caused damage of about £150. It was an incident which we think could have been averted. I think school must agree as the punishment he is being given is relatively minor (he is 15 and Statemented).
This sum is too large to have any real meaning to DS. With smaller amounts we would deduct a sum from his pocket money each week. To deduct this amount would lose any meaning as it would go on for so long.
Any thoughts anyone?

Just deduct something, as you say the amount is not important, its the lesson to be learned.

Think of a reasonable amount that you feel would be acceptable and offer this in part payment?

Im sure school are insured, so it would just be a gesture.

Agree with claw, deduct something, or not give him any pocket money for a couple weeks.

I would expect the school to pay for the damage, they should be insured.

Yes, they will be insured. Not worried about them being out of pocket. It is a big school with a massive budget so £150 is a drop in the ocean. I do want my DS to be aware of the consequences of his actions though, and in offering to pay them there is a sense of accepting responsibility which he needs to have particularly at his age.
Deciding what a reasonable amount is is quite hard.

I think 2 weeks pocket money, the cash of which must be handed over by your Ds to a person in authority at school, so that he doesn't just 'not receive' the money, he receives it then feels the loss of it.

That's a good idea colditz. Last time we paid for something we wrote a cheque and then he went without some of his pocket money until we had been reimbursed.
Your idea is much better for an Aspie and I wish I had thought of it.

ds1 is autistic - only 7 - but also has ADHD so discipline Features Heavily in our lives, and I do find that most of his discipline needs to be 'solid' rather than theoretical or he simply doesn't notice he's being disciplined. Something needs to happen to his bbody (time out in bedroom or Big Punishment - sitting still for 7 minutes!) or to his possessions, including money which he values highly, in the form of confiscation, or making him pay for things.