DD is the odd one out in our family :(

[MiladyDeWinter]

She is my beloved daughter born of my first marriage to a twunt who never sees her. But it seems that day to day DH and I do our utmost to do things for her, more than we do for our son who is autistic

For all his quirks, DS "fits in" so much better with DH and I as we are both very anti-social, we have initial "friends" but we find reasons to keep them away.

DD has friends who knock for her but we are very protective, maybe too protective of her even though she is now a quite substantial 10 year old. She is so pretty I find it hard believe that somebody wouldn't want to take her.

I have recently let her out to play. I wish I could do it more. But I can't shake the feeling that DD is the person, right now, who needs the special treatment. Is that bad?

MiladyDeWinter, no it isn't bad . Let her go little by little. She will surprise you.

Thank you lou

Not bad at all

I find that my children (four of, all very different) have different times when they need my attention/special treatment more than the others..for whatever reason.. it's how families are

Be brave and let her go out, let her develop the skills she needs even if it's scary to let her (and remind me I said that when I post here in september sobbing cos my eldest leaves for uni and I'm terrified.....)

Macforme I'll be here - Uni, congrats to dd / ds

I do feel that in some ways my son is missing out because he's so easy in some respects, very non-demanding of my attention, will sit and do his own thing for hours compared to my daughter but you are right, they need different things at different times. Dd is developing breasts, getting outside interests and needs her mother a lot I suppose.

She is so different to the rest of us though, chatty and loud and always flitting from one thing to another. Maybe I'm sensitive to it because DH is my soulmate and my son is so like us whereas she's like her father in many ways and I worry she might feel she's an outsider especially as he doesn't see her. Mind you she's not the sort to keep anything bottled up and it's probably just me